What’s an alpha widow? I’ve heard the term but wasn’t sure what it meant.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Major Red flags in women. Feel free to add or disagree
- Thread starter darktriadism
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
R
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Yeah. That’s a good read. Accurate. Which is why I get so frustrated when supposedly red pilled men are still comparing women to THEIR moral code that they grew up with or formed as an idealization.
Passive men cling so desperately to that idealized version of how she should be loyal and loving no matter how he presents himself.
When he can’t have that he becomes angry or denigrates women. Women aren’t the problem in this world. Neither is feminism as a force.
You simply ignore the whole fake reality. It’s not real. It’s totally fake.
What if...what if men just said...”what’s feminism?”, “oh you mean that silly reality you are trying to feed me?” Then laugh.
Who is anyone. I mean anyone, to tell you what to think?
A man’s problem isn’t the laws or the fake reality that exists. It’s that he bought into it. That is a complete shift of responsibility to YOU. Learn to own it. Realize women are only trying to survive and the idea that you can suppress their breeding strategy has failed utterly. Centuries of religious indoctrination has failed. Centuries of burning them or crucifying them has failed.
If you still believe it’s them, you are still a failed man. Unlearn your Achilles heels. Are you a man or a whimpering girl? Sniff Sniff
I honestly don't hold it against a woman if she hasn't had a bastard child at 35. Fvck, these days that can be a PLUS to me! I used to fvck a FINE @$$ woman that was 40 and didn't have any kids but my God she was hot, she wasn't crazy and she would do ANYTHING. I know she's the exception to the rule but if only more women were like her, no kids, no drama, and awesome in the sack.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think it could be solved with your gut feel. If a girl is helping you to feel calm and centred at least 80% of the time and you're kicking goals in your life then potentially she's a keeper. then of course you have to look at life circumstances of you both and do some testing. I know it's ridiculously tough being a man in America. but a lot of you guys seem to fish in polluted Ponds and and try and argue that a two headed fish is fine.
If she is confusing you or causing mental anguish and you're being distracted from your life goals then kick to the kerb.
And early on it shouldn't matter guys. In early dating your job is to try and f*** them and spin plates
If she is confusing you or causing mental anguish and you're being distracted from your life goals then kick to the kerb.
And early on it shouldn't matter guys. In early dating your job is to try and f*** them and spin plates
R
Ranger
Guest
Or more accurately, they (men) polute the pond with their corrupted thoughts and actions and then complain about the two headed fish.
Girls with daddy issues, like real issues, childhood problems, family divorced etc.. some ppl come out normal but few who aren't it's better to ignore.. super silence type girls, who you cannot open argh but they keep on asking what you want
touma.akagi
Senior Don Juan
Textbook SJW
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
R
Ranger
Guest
I don’t use the word Alpha. It’s a ridiculous word and my statement stands. You are fully allowed to disagree.
It’s whats in a man’s head that dictates what’s in the water.
R
Ranger
Guest
LMAO
Women form to my standard. Standard is. I don’t even have to communicate it. She knows.
Not even a small portion of that stuff has been done to me. If it has, I simply ignored it or it didn’t register as hostile. I’m a bit tougher than passive men.
Roober
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The whole concept of red flags is a fools errand. You cant apply an attribute in many different contexts and think it holds the same weight. There are far too many variables in peoples lives to do this.
Additionally, a man who possesses the defining characteristics of a man (leadership, stoicism, etc.) Will mitigate any potential influence of a woman's past on her current relations with him.
Every situation is unique. Every person is unique. You are far better (and more successful) by evaluating each encounter as an individual encounter rather than clumping it into a nice little box of repression.
Additionally, a man who possesses the defining characteristics of a man (leadership, stoicism, etc.) Will mitigate any potential influence of a woman's past on her current relations with him.
Every situation is unique. Every person is unique. You are far better (and more successful) by evaluating each encounter as an individual encounter rather than clumping it into a nice little box of repression.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Whats considered "dysfunctional"?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
glass half full
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When women start to realize the need to check their own behavior, because they will be held accountable for it by wiser and pickier men, they (hopefully) will grow from it and see what men won't tolerate just for the sake of a Vag.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So pulling out a phone on a date talking about other guys dyck pics is like dog shytting the rug?
Yep, highly counterproductive behavior from her if her IL is high…
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Agree. Unless they are comfirmed to be the "swinger" or open viewpoint i think its worth ending the date right there.
Yes, it’s basically female friend or low male interest behavior…
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.