"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Major orgasm problem

reyalp

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Hm.

Bald at 40 and I've slept with a hottie every night

OR

Bald at 60 and I've slept with a hottie once a week.....


tempting.......but i'll go bald at 40.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't listen to everything you read
 

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www.herballove.com sells actionloves products among others... take a look at that site. it´s really good, and with patience I recovered from being basically impotent from masturbating too much from a young age..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jariel

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I've recently overcome this same problem. In fact, I can never get off first few times I'm with a new woman and I discovered the problem was all about my comfort levels. Since getting more comfortable with my girlfriend, I've been getting off 90% of the time we have sex.

However, last night I stayed at her house with her parents in the next room. When we had sex the bed was banging and she was making a lot of noise too. I kept worrying that her parents could hear us and I just couldn't get off at all. Then this morning, when her parents left, we went at it again, and I got off within 20 minutes.

If you can cvm by masturbating, there's nothing medically wrong with you. Mental processes play a big role in orgasms for men and women, and if you're not on form mentally or distracted, it could affect your performance.

A guy who can go for hours and give a girl multiple orgasms is something a lot of women would kill for. And once you reframe your "problem" as a gift, you should find it gets a lot easier to get off during sex.
 

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Yeah I remember when "it" happend to me, I panicked and it made things worse. I believe it is all mental, once you conquer the mental part, the physical part will be "healed".

If you do have these problems...

Performance anxiety
Masturbating too much
Watching too much porn

RELAX, all I can say. Course I've been on my own journey and still am, so I am very secure with my self and performance in bed. Just relax, by all means find something safe to calm the nerves, talk to the girl, talk to yourself, or just really chill.


Try and masturbate less and less to the point you can control yourself. Build a relationship with your demons; you'll become way way stronger.

If you do masturbate, use some lubricant and masturbate the correct way. In essence, you want to climax the way a ***** would do for you--more about massaging the head and surface of your ****, not the internal parts(only the hand can do that).

For me, it was also PORN. Porn is awesome, really gets one turned on easily. Porn is also a double edged-sword, it messed me up in the head when it came to sex. There wasn't any "magic". Real life sex is not like what you see in porn, maybe just a tad like 70's porn lol. Then again, I haven't hooked up with a kinky and open girl(I'm trying really hard to though). That's what I want, and I'm trying to hit it.
 
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