I just started a new job and its a matter of time that some of the ladies at work are gonna ask about me, but ive have ran into an occurring theme regarding mystery on this site. How do i respond to some of these questions without giving away too much info, but at the same time not sounding bland and boring?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maintaining Mystery???
- Thread starter CJE666
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MisterSisterFister
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Do not even bother gaming girls you work with. For one you never sh** where you eat. For 2, too many ways for it to back fire and make work become uncomfortable. Just focus on being calm collected and very cool + fun and you'll be fine.
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Maintaining mystery. Let her do the talking. Only bang the ones you work with if they initiate first. That's my rule.
Purefilth
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Just smile laugh off questions you don't wanna answer about your personal life.
Something like '' nosy one aren't we? " usually does the trick.
Something like '' nosy one aren't we? " usually does the trick.
Dude, the workplace is not the same.
Between all the job losses, people are so uptight these days. Women can secretly write you up and then if you hit on her she can get you fired. My boss told me he had to fire someone because of that. I dated a girl from work a few years ago and another guy got fired for punching me over it (and he went and reported me but then they fired him instead).
And never email girls from work. They will forward it to their supervisor and make a big deal about it, especially married, unattractive girls, or the catty receptionist who knows she makes the least in the company and is seething.
KISS OF DEATH: Because so much information is now available online, if you ever forward a link to someone at work to support your claim, especially a scientific link in a scientific job, and ESPECIALLY one that YOU wrote as a professional in that area, it's practically grounds for dismissal these days. People have dynamically become more ignorant to maintain their pre-internet level of stupidity. Goddamn anyone who was ever offended by a hyperlink, a quote, or an email rant.
Just smile and politely answer questions and walk away. Tell them you have a girlfriend.
Between all the job losses, people are so uptight these days. Women can secretly write you up and then if you hit on her she can get you fired. My boss told me he had to fire someone because of that. I dated a girl from work a few years ago and another guy got fired for punching me over it (and he went and reported me but then they fired him instead).
And never email girls from work. They will forward it to their supervisor and make a big deal about it, especially married, unattractive girls, or the catty receptionist who knows she makes the least in the company and is seething.
KISS OF DEATH: Because so much information is now available online, if you ever forward a link to someone at work to support your claim, especially a scientific link in a scientific job, and ESPECIALLY one that YOU wrote as a professional in that area, it's practically grounds for dismissal these days. People have dynamically become more ignorant to maintain their pre-internet level of stupidity. Goddamn anyone who was ever offended by a hyperlink, a quote, or an email rant.
Just smile and politely answer questions and walk away. Tell them you have a girlfriend.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I work in the very back of the building in a warehouse bagging ****, while all of the secretarys are at the front busy on their computers. The only time i see any women is when i am arriving, having lunch, and leaving the workplace. I never have to physically work with any of them.bigneil said:
Secret write ups sounds absolutely ludicrous, and who the hell emails girls these days? :crackup:
Although the gossip and the extremely unlikely event of losing my job is a possibility, I am willing to take that chance under the above circumstances. Ive already seen one HB7 and a couple HB9's give off various signs of body language (playing with jewellery, longer than normal eye contact, preening ect.) so im gonna c how this works out