I just started a new job and its a matter of time that some of the ladies at work are gonna ask about me, but ive have ran into an occurring theme regarding mystery on this site. How do i respond to some of these questions without giving away too much info, but at the same time not sounding bland and boring?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Maintaining Mystery???
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MisterSisterFister
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Do not even bother gaming girls you work with. For one you never sh** where you eat. For 2, too many ways for it to back fire and make work become uncomfortable. Just focus on being calm collected and very cool + fun and you'll be fine.
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Maintaining mystery. Let her do the talking. Only bang the ones you work with if they initiate first. That's my rule.
Purefilth
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Just smile laugh off questions you don't wanna answer about your personal life.
Something like '' nosy one aren't we? " usually does the trick.
Something like '' nosy one aren't we? " usually does the trick.
Dude, the workplace is not the same.
Between all the job losses, people are so uptight these days. Women can secretly write you up and then if you hit on her she can get you fired. My boss told me he had to fire someone because of that. I dated a girl from work a few years ago and another guy got fired for punching me over it (and he went and reported me but then they fired him instead).
And never email girls from work. They will forward it to their supervisor and make a big deal about it, especially married, unattractive girls, or the catty receptionist who knows she makes the least in the company and is seething.
KISS OF DEATH: Because so much information is now available online, if you ever forward a link to someone at work to support your claim, especially a scientific link in a scientific job, and ESPECIALLY one that YOU wrote as a professional in that area, it's practically grounds for dismissal these days. People have dynamically become more ignorant to maintain their pre-internet level of stupidity. Goddamn anyone who was ever offended by a hyperlink, a quote, or an email rant.
Just smile and politely answer questions and walk away. Tell them you have a girlfriend.
Between all the job losses, people are so uptight these days. Women can secretly write you up and then if you hit on her she can get you fired. My boss told me he had to fire someone because of that. I dated a girl from work a few years ago and another guy got fired for punching me over it (and he went and reported me but then they fired him instead).
And never email girls from work. They will forward it to their supervisor and make a big deal about it, especially married, unattractive girls, or the catty receptionist who knows she makes the least in the company and is seething.
KISS OF DEATH: Because so much information is now available online, if you ever forward a link to someone at work to support your claim, especially a scientific link in a scientific job, and ESPECIALLY one that YOU wrote as a professional in that area, it's practically grounds for dismissal these days. People have dynamically become more ignorant to maintain their pre-internet level of stupidity. Goddamn anyone who was ever offended by a hyperlink, a quote, or an email rant.
Just smile and politely answer questions and walk away. Tell them you have a girlfriend.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I work in the very back of the building in a warehouse bagging ****, while all of the secretarys are at the front busy on their computers. The only time i see any women is when i am arriving, having lunch, and leaving the workplace. I never have to physically work with any of them.bigneil said:
Secret write ups sounds absolutely ludicrous, and who the hell emails girls these days? :crackup:
Although the gossip and the extremely unlikely event of losing my job is a possibility, I am willing to take that chance under the above circumstances. Ive already seen one HB7 and a couple HB9's give off various signs of body language (playing with jewellery, longer than normal eye contact, preening ect.) so im gonna c how this works out