"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maintaining a positive attitude

Bokanovsky

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I don't want to sound like some kind of a new age motivational speaker, but I think that this is a topic that rarely gets discussed on sosuave. It's very easy to become cynical, if not downright bitter, after taking the red pill. And I realize that it may sound a little ironic coming from me, as I probably come across as a pretty cynical kind of guy myself in many of my posts. What I've realized as I got older is that while a certain amount of natural skepticism is a good thing, you can't let it define you as a person. It's not good for your inner game (you lose motivation to interact with women) and it's not good for your outer game either (no one likes a guy who is always negative and critical of everything).

Ultimately, to be a true DJ, you need to be aware of what you're up against as a man living in the 21st century (i.e. female hypergamy, high divorce rates, unfair family law systems, etc.) but at the same time remain an optimist. Personally, I've often struggled to maintain the right balance between the two.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SamTheHobit

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Good point.. I honestly have lost motivation to approach women.

Believe it or not The first thing that comes to my mind when talking to a girl is all the guys shes been with etc..

I'm starting to lose it a little bit. :/
 
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I was introduced recently to a friend of a friend and this guy was hardcore red pill. He's about my age.

- Lives with his mom
- Hasn't been on a date in 2 years
- Working as a cashier
- Goes to parties without being invited

It got me thinking, can you be so unplugged from the matrix that you suck at life?
 
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