"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Maintaining a positive attitude

Bokanovsky

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I don't want to sound like some kind of a new age motivational speaker, but I think that this is a topic that rarely gets discussed on sosuave. It's very easy to become cynical, if not downright bitter, after taking the red pill. And I realize that it may sound a little ironic coming from me, as I probably come across as a pretty cynical kind of guy myself in many of my posts. What I've realized as I got older is that while a certain amount of natural skepticism is a good thing, you can't let it define you as a person. It's not good for your inner game (you lose motivation to interact with women) and it's not good for your outer game either (no one likes a guy who is always negative and critical of everything).

Ultimately, to be a true DJ, you need to be aware of what you're up against as a man living in the 21st century (i.e. female hypergamy, high divorce rates, unfair family law systems, etc.) but at the same time remain an optimist. Personally, I've often struggled to maintain the right balance between the two.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamTheHobit

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Good point.. I honestly have lost motivation to approach women.

Believe it or not The first thing that comes to my mind when talking to a girl is all the guys shes been with etc..

I'm starting to lose it a little bit. :/
 
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I was introduced recently to a friend of a friend and this guy was hardcore red pill. He's about my age.

- Lives with his mom
- Hasn't been on a date in 2 years
- Working as a cashier
- Goes to parties without being invited

It got me thinking, can you be so unplugged from the matrix that you suck at life?
 
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