"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have this small eBay operation, selling stuff.. I don't accept electronic payments, only check or money order. Buyers send them via US mail. Most of the time I get them, but sometimes I don't.

This happens I noticed with people who I find inept, via how they mark payments sent and all that small stuff.

How could mail could not arrive to me if he supposedly wrote correct address?


Whose problem is this? Mail man on my end?



This is the only time that mail does not arrive to me. I have no problems receiving letters from other people.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mail men are thieving bastards. Why don't you use PayPal? Lesser of several evils IMO.
 
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I can't use PayPal on eBay.. It requires to convert account to merchant type.. It also means I have to deal with credit card charge backs and pay extra on my transactions..


With check or money order I have control over buyer.. With PayPal he has control over me.. Easy to get screwed.


I can't just tell them I only accept direct transfers through PayPal, ebay policy violation.
 
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The buyer is lying. Give them 3 more days, then file an unpaid item dispute, and that will give them like 8 more days to supposedly send. If it still doesn't arrive, let them get their nicely earned strike, and neg feedback. If they get I believe THREE of these strikes, they are kicked off.
 
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Oh I'd love to leave negative feedback. Question is, if I do, they can do it too, right?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you use Paypal you can set it to only ship to confirmed addresses. That means you are shipping to the same address as the credit card is registered to/mailed to.

I have only had one attempted chargeback in 4 years - and it was denied because it was mailed to a confirmed address.

As far as negatives go, I prefer to just file an NPB dispute against them after 7 days and get my FVF fees back. If they do not respond to your dispute throuh the dispute center and results in you getting your fees back (you close it after givingthem 7 more days from filing), then theycannot leave you feedback of any kind and receive a strike against thier accounts for not paying.

I have found leaving negs hurts the Seller more than Buyer.
 
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Also great about Paypal is it is directly linked to USPS, where the Customer's address info is already inserted, you get free delivery confirmation (1/2 off if first class). The label prints ourt and you just leave it for your mail carrier to pick up everyday and don't have to drive to the post office! (Of course if your carrier is a thief... !?!)
 
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I was feeling like maybe it was inappropriate to ask Zorro to take of his mask LOL
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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