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Confidence seals the deal in person, yet looks gets your foot in the door.Bullsh1t!!!
What really matters is "confidence"![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Confidence seals the deal in person, yet looks gets your foot in the door.Bullsh1t!!!
What really matters is "confidence"![]()
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
And even then it has nothing to do with what the girl thinks of you. Having confidence = you making the move. You could be 6ft+, handsome and never make eye contact and mumble your words. You just need to be confident enough to make the move.Confidence seals the deal in person, yet looks gets your foot in the door.![]()
Some of you fellas you think I'm extreme when I tell men to get to the gym, build muscle, diet down to 10% bf, get their facial proportions in order, and style correctly to get women fawning over you?
"Attraction game" is not necessary when your physicality is on point.
Just remember this: No matter how great you look, you will not attract every female, but the ones you do attract will be child's play.
^This is it right here. Summarized simply & perfectly.Confidence seals the deal in person, yet looks gets your foot in the door.![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Upon meet, first 15-30 minutes, pupils dilate, smiling ear to ear, laughing exaggerated, proximity close ... done deal.I agree with you. I believe in the fact that women make up their minds about you within the first few seconds of seeing you and you just have to not say something stupid. What do you think about this?
We're still waiting on the pics of this gym rat so we know what we gotta aim for dudeUnreal. I'm not kidding. I knew it was get more attention, I just couldn't believe how much. I messaged probably 30 women the first night, 20 responded. I took the conversation sexual, they went with it. Half of them wanted to meet the same night. While I refreshed the page more messages came in. Then other women started messaging me first. I couldn't keep up.
Today I signed up at my local gym. I'm getting jacked.
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I've been trying to explain it to many users, but apparently some believes that a confident ugly guy scores more than a shy hot one.Confidence seals the deal in person, yet looks gets your foot in the door.![]()
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Absolutely Claudo. You've had gurus in the dating industry charging thousands of dollars for seminars when what you said above is the case the entire time. Success was considered a numbers game--you knock on enough doors and eventually someone will open it. It was never due to the routines or any of that bull****...if you approach the right woman (the one who had scoped you out prior and wanted you to come talk to her) you can say practically anything, she'll be happy at the fact you just came over. More attention needs to be placed on selecting the right "target" - being a better conversationalist and all that is of course important too. We as people should always be improving ourselves.And even then it has nothing to do with what the girl thinks of you. Having confidence = you making the move. You could be 6ft+, handsome and never make eye contact and mumble your words. You just need to be confident enough to make the move.
When a girl says "Just be confident!" she means "Ask me out if I find you attractive". That's why I think "game" is really all about figuring out how much a girl likes you in order to make the next move and making her familiar with you.
Exactly! Finding the right is the biggest part of getting laid. Companies spend millions just to target the right customers. I'm more likely to buy a new computer if I am looking for a new computer.More attention needs to be placed on selecting the right "target" - being a better conversationalist
To a guy who has both: looks and game, you're outclassed.One of my cousins is probably more hench than anyone here, besides possibly @marmel75 , and he is a complete faggot for the women. So he can go online, and get a girl easily enough, (as he has), she bossed him. He came out with me and a friend, couldn't open a girl, spilled his drink in confusion when we left him for 20 minutes, and started messaging us.
Guys who are impress3d with this sillyness have never lived.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Great job being a catfish (sarcasm).One of the pics I used: https://pics.pof.com/dating/1147/37/90/448cf0dbb-0b48-4251-9a07-cde0ef1f401d.jpg
That physique is not the most appealing to women.One of the pics I used: https://pics.pof.com/dating/1147/37/90/448cf0dbb-0b48-4251-9a07-cde0ef1f401d.jpg
And how to become 1 or 2? First photo is hard already. Second seems impossible. What just diet and workout...?That physique is not the most appealing to women.
For those interested:
This is a natural physique that appeals most to women:
https://www.google.com/search?q=fit...AUICigB&biw=1227&bih=946#imgrc=eZQVeQDPo_TO1M:
This is a physique with enhancements that appeals most to women:
https://www.google.com/search?q=fit...AUICigB&biw=1227&bih=946#imgrc=dRT_uY9AcOR0CM:
What would be a more profitable experiment would be if you photo-shopped yourself, in such a way you kept your face, as is, but then attached it to a muscular ripped body or vice-versa (i.e. you keep your body as is, but attach it to another face) and see what type of feedback you would get back.Unreal. I'm not kidding. I knew it was get more attention, I just couldn't believe how much. I messaged probably 30 women the first night, 20 responded. I took the conversation sexual, they went with it. Half of them wanted to meet the same night. While I refreshed the page more messages came in. Then other women started messaging me first. I couldn't keep up.
Today I signed up at my local gym. I'm getting jacked.
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.