"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Made a bit of a mistake today

Mr_rogers

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Hey everyone,

Today I went with my dad to his physio therapy appointment like I do every couple days. I'd made up my mind that I'd get the number of the really cute secretary that works for the physio therapist.

Once my dad was settled in, I excused myself and took a minute in the hallway to compose myself. I wasn't completely **** scared, but I was a bit nervous (I figure it's pretty normal to be at least a little excited before asking for a girl's number, so I don't worry about it much). I went back in and started a conversation with her.

It took me less than a minute to lose that nervous feeling and settle right in. I mostly let her talk about herself, asking a few questions here and there to keep the conversation going. I cracked a few jokes and found out some basic information - she's 21, has been working at the physio clinic for three months, yadda yadda, she lives with her boyfriend in a nearby town only a few minutes away from the clinic.

I didn't let the news of her boyfriend phase me and was able to keep things going without slowing down.

By the end of it though, when my dad was ready to go I found myself rushed for time. I'd been enjoying having someone to talk to too much and hadn't left myself enough time to easily get her number. Because I felt pressure, I froze up and left without getting her number.

My question is - is there still a good chance that I can get her number this coming Friday? I figure it's a bit too early for her to have Friend-Zoned me since we've only just started talking, but it can never hurt to have input from one's fellow DJs.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MisterMcGee

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Stop the whole "i made an AFC mistake" you're either an AFC or you aren't. If your a cool guy, you can do AFCish things and they'll simply be 'sincere' 'kind' and whatever.
Regarding this, just chalk it up as something you realize you want to change about yourself. That's it. no need to drag 'afcness' into this
 

Mr_rogers

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MisterMcGee said:
Stop the whole "i made an AFC mistake" you're either an AFC or you aren't. If your a cool guy, you can do AFCish things and they'll simply be 'sincere' 'kind' and whatever.
Regarding this, just chalk it up as something you realize you want to change about yourself. That's it. no need to drag 'afcness' into this
Awesome. Thanks for the advice. :)
 
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