Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You mentioned to her status and money.....yea, all girls are easy once they hear that sh!t about a dood.skip2mylou781 said:The best (or worst if u wanna think of it that way) thing I ever did was tell a girl that i got lotsa $$ because I am a famous russian pop star ( i am actually russian so its easy to pull off with an american b1tch), and then I sang for her in russian and she melted.........ended up ****ing her that night and then ditching her.........obv i was lying cuz im just a russian guy living in the US and i got an accounting job. lol
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm seriously starting to see skip's point that you all are a bunch of pussies yourself....there is ***** and there is relationships, its not hard to tell the difference and adapt your game likewise. It's like you have never been laid.KillaCam said:A lot of people are just scared that the real person inside them isn't good enough to get the job done.
From How High :
"There are a lot of things in life your ass won't get.."
"Yeah, like pvssy, and respect".
Pull a chick with lies, you get the pvssy. But you don't get the respect. 'Cause it ain't you that got the job done, it's the person she falsely thinks you are.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What are you going on about?Zero Hero said:I'm seriously starting to see skip's point that you all are a bunch of pussies yourself....there is ***** and there is relationships, its not hard to tell the difference and adapt your game likewise. It's like you have never been laid.
skip2mylou781 said:again, this is SIMPLY about only getting laid, and nothing else
Since I joined this community five years ago, the quality of the people has quickly gone downhill. There actually were ambitious men driven by self-improvement that frequented these forums. Now the community is populated by chumps, self-serving jerks, and wannabe players lacking in the areas of moral principles and ethical conduct. These are the type of losers we as a community frowned upon and ejected from these forums. These people do not deserve our respect.Jack McCrack said:There's no reason to call anyone a chump.
Demon said:Since I joined this community five years ago, the quality of the people has quickly gone downhill. There actually were ambitious men driven by self-improvement that frequented these forums. Now the community is populated by chumps, self-serving jerks, and wannabe players lacking in the areas of moral principles and ethical conduct. These are the type of losers we as a community frowned upon and ejected from these forums. These people do not deserve our respect.
Combined with piss-poor attitudes toward life, their methods are downright deceitful. They represent the opposite of what we strived to achieve in formulating the art of the Don Juan. They are the corruptors of our philosophy. Unfortunately, those who would have strongly retaliated against such corruption departed this community long ago, realizing that the weaknesses of the insecure and malicious were too potent as bait for the desperate and unwise.
If someone told you to jump off a bridge, would you accept it and go ahead and do it, because that person said it was "right?"Zero Hero said:There are way too many people on here who want to be the perfect guy except for one problem...they never get ****ing laid. If someone is giving advice on how to get laid, you use that advice to get laid, you don't turn it into something its not.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That's where interpretations of the term "Don Juan" differ from person to person. Your opinion isn't fact, neither is mine.skip2mylou781 said:But cmon AFCS whats with the respect bullshyt? a don juan gets laid by any means necessary!!!
Oh nah, bud, I didn't say stop. I just said tone it downskip2mylou781 said:ok i wont use the word AFC, lemme use the phrase "chump who doesn't know how to get pvssy".......better?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.