Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have to say water based. I havn't researched it, but water-based just seems so much more natural and safe. I would imagine clean-up is easier (silicon lasts longer because it resists washing off or drying out) and it has to be safer health-wise. I relate it to the controvesy between saline vs. silicon breast implants. Saline (salt water) is considered by many to be safer and non-toxic versus silicon which isn't a natural component of the body. Basically just be careful with the chemicals you use on your body. I'd feel much more comfortable using a water-based product on my body versus a silicon-based product, even if the water-based product doesn't perform as well.Bumble-B said:Thanks for the answers! I did notice that there are a lot more water-based lubes around. Which ones are better: water or silicon based?