Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have to say water based. I havn't researched it, but water-based just seems so much more natural and safe. I would imagine clean-up is easier (silicon lasts longer because it resists washing off or drying out) and it has to be safer health-wise. I relate it to the controvesy between saline vs. silicon breast implants. Saline (salt water) is considered by many to be safer and non-toxic versus silicon which isn't a natural component of the body. Basically just be careful with the chemicals you use on your body. I'd feel much more comfortable using a water-based product on my body versus a silicon-based product, even if the water-based product doesn't perform as well.Bumble-B said:Thanks for the answers! I did notice that there are a lot more water-based lubes around. Which ones are better: water or silicon based?