You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I have to say water based. I havn't researched it, but water-based just seems so much more natural and safe. I would imagine clean-up is easier (silicon lasts longer because it resists washing off or drying out) and it has to be safer health-wise. I relate it to the controvesy between saline vs. silicon breast implants. Saline (salt water) is considered by many to be safer and non-toxic versus silicon which isn't a natural component of the body. Basically just be careful with the chemicals you use on your body. I'd feel much more comfortable using a water-based product on my body versus a silicon-based product, even if the water-based product doesn't perform as well.Bumble-B said:Thanks for the answers! I did notice that there are a lot more water-based lubes around. Which ones are better: water or silicon based?