penkitten
Master Don Juan
we are having a luau (wedding reception) in two weeks and i am still trying to decide on what food to have .
any suggestions??
any suggestions??
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thank you for the help.Bible_Belt said:Do you have your coconut shell bikini top yet?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
eww shark is so bitter.KarmaSutra said:Shark steaks. Sushi ( sashimi and nigori ). Most importantly top shelf liquor!
Have some good quality beer as well, Sam Adams, Amberbock . . .
It'll be appreciated more than the food.
Oh, my invite must be on the way to my mailbox hhmmm . . .
penkitten said:eww shark is so bitter.
the church has this little rule about no alcohol, so we have to wait until we get back to the hotel to have any beer haha
i didnt know you would be wanting to go....