LTRs and problems with intimacy

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Im 38 now
I still Remember rolling up on 38. I was in great shape, more awareness, i knew myself better than in my 20's. If i could go back in time. Id focus on purpose first. My main relationships would frame around my age level. The 10 yrs and younger thing wouldand could not be a priority because they wouldnt support me. 38 isa great age, own it. Do 34-42 yrs age appropriate things. Be diverse if your dealing with multiple ladies. Your foundation should be what supports you.
 
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Do 34-42 yrs age appropriate things. Be diverse if your dealing with multiple ladies. Your foundation should be what supports you.
Thanks for the reply.
What do you suggest?

Its been a bit difficult to get out of the norm since i prefer hanging around with my younger mates (that also know game, tragically :D) and all the guys my age just stay home and watch Netflix :/ or play boardgames.
 

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Thanks for the reply.
What do you suggest?

Its been a bit difficult to get out of the norm since i prefer hanging around with my younger mates (that also know game, tragically :D) and all the guys my age just stay home and watch Netflix :/ or play boardgames.
I dunno. Think about it. Tie to a social fabric in that group. Stay with that. Stragglers outside that group can come and go. Its way easier that way. Your fabric will work for you.
 

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Thanks for the reply.
What do you suggest?

Its been a bit difficult to get out of the norm since i prefer hanging around with my younger mates (that also know game, tragically :D) and all the guys my age just stay home and watch Netflix :/ or play boardgames.
The 10 year gap is bad when it comes to sex. You need an
Maybe it's the long exposure to porn , dunno. feels like i havent got all out of my system yet.
So you keep the same intensity of desire for the same person after months ?
Why do you look at porno? You mentioned she is wife material. Do you Jack off when watching porn? Jacking off helps to last longer in sex, but can get you tire too.
 
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The 10 year gap is bad when it comes to sex. You need an

Why do you look at porno? You mentioned she is wife material. Do you Jack off when watching porn? Jacking off helps to last longer but can get you tire too.
10 years what?
 
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Hey guys, been a lurker for some time in this forum, learned tons through you guys, and this is my first post.

I have been noticing some issues in me with LTRs , in wich after about 3 months of banging the same girl, i start to lose interest in the interaction.

I mantain the relationship as long as i can because the girls are fun and and wife material, but somehow my sex drive plunders after few months. Thats when always find myself trying to sabotage the relationship, thinking that the grass is always greener on the other side.

Not quite sure what im asking here, but as anyone gone through the same thing?
What was your childhood like and your relationship with your parents?
 

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You could find a BPD woman, she keeps you on your toes.. and are crazy in bed too, not borring after few month..

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Single mom. Over controlled / protected. You get the picture
Kind of the same here, but I served in military. Father didn't teach a ****. But mom lectured me all the time "Watch for MF trying to touch you and want to give you a ride and tell you they know your father or me, stay the fvck away from them."
 

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If you've developed an addiction to porn, you need to find a woman who looks like your ideal pornstar and can satisfy those physical desires for you. I struggled with this in the past and managed to get with a girl like that and the intimacy never died down. It didn't work out with her because she wanted to get married and I didn't. That was 8 years ago and I'm still okay with that decision.
 

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Your problem is not intimacy, you have sex problems, this doesn't mean you have impotence, but you are with the wrong woman. Just because the relationship is intimate does not mean it relates to sex. Intimacy means sharing, openness, mutuality.
You also dont have attraction problems, as I understand you believe the girl is wife material, so you like the girl in the exterior, but when it comes to sex and orgams you dont get the right climax.

You are in a ying ying or yang yang relationship. This is like magnetic attraction/repulsion, like the poles north and south - and - or + and + connection.

You know the rule different poles are attracted, while equal poles repulse.

You need a different woman and she needs different man. If you are yang, you need a ying female and if you are ying, then you need a yang female.

You do not need this forum because you don't have an attraction's problem. SoSuave is about PUA, it about how to get the girl out and to the bed. It is about picking up women. If You don't like the girl in sex, then there is nothing that can be done, other than finding a different girl you like to fvck.

Look, my father used to say "any pvssy will milk your cuck", but if so, why did he run out the front door with the excuse of visiting the market, but actually intended to be in bed with other women than my mother. He didnt like my mother, but she was wife material.

That is my point of view....which is based on some readings that shaped my believe. The material source comes from Oriental culture, not Western civilisation.
This is an alternative view/opinion to the view anyone can give you in here.
Highly disagree with this. Sosuave is about teaching men to develop self worth and for them to use that to either pick up women, have better relationships, and/or to be happier in general.
 

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If you've developed an addiction to porn, you need to find a woman who looks like your ideal pornstar and can satisfy those physical desires for you. I struggled with this in the past and managed to get with a girl like that and the intimacy never died down. It didn't work out with her because she wanted to get married and I didn't. That was 8 years ago and I'm still okay with that decision.
Most guys who are addicted to porn are struggling to even TALK to girls. Telling them they can only break their porn addictions by fulfilling their porn-fueled fantasies is.....beyond....useless advice. Looks like whomever you're conversing with is on my block list, probably for being a self-professed "INCEL," which makes that advice even more ludicrous. Try just advising him to get out of the house. One step at a time.
 
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