"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How many here actually have girlfriends and are in a long term type of relationship?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I mean, even if you havent been in one long, are you in one that you are possibly going to be looking forward to a LTR?
 
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Hollowpoint

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Met this one early 2nd semester at university. I'd like to be with her at least for the whole 4 years at university.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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CyranoDeBergerac

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Now that I think about it, I'm going on just over 2 years with my current being the only woman in my life as well, though I did break up with her for a few months when our relationship was being counter-productive.

I've also had quite a few relationships which lasted over six months.

-Cyrano
 
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Going on two and a half years with my girl. Getting married at the end of June.
 
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Of the 3 girlfriends I've ever had, no relationship lasted a day less than 3 years.

First: 3.0 years

Second: 5.5 years

Third: 3.5 years
 
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Originally posted by cactus3178
Of the 3 girlfriends I've ever had, no relationship lasted a day less than 3 years.

First: 3.0 years

Second: 5.5 years

Third: 3.5 years
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You are REALLY dependent on girls huh? That means you have had a girlfriend ever since you have been 14...........and guys only start to date girls when they are about 12.

I dont have a girlfriend, but my longest relationship was about 1 1/2 years.
 
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In my first LTR - 5 months so far. She's great, meets all my standards, but lately all I can think about is other girls. I don't know, I might f*ck this one up. I think it's because she's not enough of a challenge for me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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23 years... married her after 9 days.... why waste time?
 
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Originally posted by CLOONEY
You are REALLY dependent on girls huh? That means you have had a girlfriend ever since you have been 14...........and guys only start to date girls when they are about 12.

I dont have a girlfriend, but my longest relationship was about 1 1/2 years.
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I don't know about dependent. I had between 3-6 months 'off' in between these girls. I know that's not alot of time, but each time, I focused, got off my ass, hung out with my bro's more, improved, and then got back on the horse. I don't quit.

Not to mention that all three wanted to go out with me long before it actually happened. My main problem seems to lie in actually keeping them longer than a few years.

But you do have a point, maybe that's why it seems weird to me to not have a damn relationship.
 
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I have been in a LTR for about 8 months. It has been going really good. I only hang with her about once a week though.
 
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I've been in one since December, but I'm not faithful in any way. I basically still live and act single. That's because she lives about 50 miles away, and i can get away with it. :D
 
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4 years in July... we just had a baby... after going through her preganancy, child birth, and a little PPD, we're back to normal... and when I mean normal I mean back to f*cking our brains out every chance we get.

Things are incredible right now... so much love, so much f*ckin, I'm happy. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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After a year, you're wasting time

No reason to have a girlfriend more than a year. You either sh-t (get married -- I suggest DON'T do this unless you want a fat, naggy wife down the road) ... or get off the pot (break up) -- I suggest do this in your 20's so you can develop individually and date tons of women to find out what you like.

Really, if you dont' know if a gal is marriage worthy after six months, you're completely wasting your time. There's nothing more to know. You know.

Also, why in the world would anyone marry in their 20's is beyond me. Each person changes individually and you have locked away your single life. Wait until you're 30 minimum. See the world, volunteer, help others, get in shape, go to as many Major League ballparks or sporting events as you can, attend your favorite musical concerts ... trust me, women will put the kabosh on most of this stuff.

* Also, no reason to live with a girl before getting married, too. Ninety percent of my friends who lived with their now-wives before getting married are now getting divorced or having a lousy marriage. They did the test drive, bought it, and are still disappointed.

Hang on to bachelorhood as long as you can! Most American women aren't worth it.
 
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