"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Leporello

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My gf and I both attend colleges that are very close to each other. And so, while we are at school, we can see each other often and have a normal relationship.

Over the summer, however, we live far enough apart that we can only see each other at most once every other week. To make up for it, she calls me almost every night.

Last night, though, my gf admitted that she was a little worried about how our relationship seems to be stagnating into nothing more than an exchange of trivialities each day. Not that we don't enjoy joking with each other and sharing amusing little anecdotes, but she seems to think a relationship ought to be more.

I think it's just a function of the physical seperation and the boredom of our everyday lives. After all, it's much easier to be emotionally (and physically) intimate when you're face to face. Besides, it's less than a month before we go back. Still, it worries her, and I don't want her IL to drop. . Any ideas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zhen

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stop talking to her so much. drop a phone call maybe 2x a week. tell her the good stories when you get back together
 

Black_Italian

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Either bulsh*t about your life being more interesting than it is OR make it more interesting than it is and dont talk to her so much for fu*ks sake. HAS ANYONE HERE EVER HEARD OF EXCLUSIVITY?

Ninja out
 

Leporello

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Nu? and what should I do when she calls? Hang up on her? Gimme a break.
 

brenbaus

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When she calls, just tell her you are busy with friends or something (and try and be busy with friends when you say this, or tell her you are tired or something0 , and you will call her back later, then dont call her for a couple days. I think your problem is that you are away from each other for the summer
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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