"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Leporello

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My gf and I both attend colleges that are very close to each other. And so, while we are at school, we can see each other often and have a normal relationship.

Over the summer, however, we live far enough apart that we can only see each other at most once every other week. To make up for it, she calls me almost every night.

Last night, though, my gf admitted that she was a little worried about how our relationship seems to be stagnating into nothing more than an exchange of trivialities each day. Not that we don't enjoy joking with each other and sharing amusing little anecdotes, but she seems to think a relationship ought to be more.

I think it's just a function of the physical seperation and the boredom of our everyday lives. After all, it's much easier to be emotionally (and physically) intimate when you're face to face. Besides, it's less than a month before we go back. Still, it worries her, and I don't want her IL to drop. . Any ideas?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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stop talking to her so much. drop a phone call maybe 2x a week. tell her the good stories when you get back together
 

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Either bulsh*t about your life being more interesting than it is OR make it more interesting than it is and dont talk to her so much for fu*ks sake. HAS ANYONE HERE EVER HEARD OF EXCLUSIVITY?

Ninja out
 

Leporello

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Nu? and what should I do when she calls? Hang up on her? Gimme a break.
 

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When she calls, just tell her you are busy with friends or something (and try and be busy with friends when you say this, or tell her you are tired or something0 , and you will call her back later, then dont call her for a couple days. I think your problem is that you are away from each other for the summer
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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