jnice48146
Don Juan
You make a good point Whitepimp, but is that something I do over the phone, or should I do it in person. If its the latter, I CAN'T until Thursday because she's out of town.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LTR is acting up. What should I do?
- Thread starter jnice48146
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Yes.. The OP does not get it yet - let me take a shot at this .Danger said:
'No Contact' starts one microsecond after you make the DECISION to dump her.. There is nothing more that you need to do to be single - you are single when YOU think you want to be. She is gone when you decide that she is gone.
NO speeches, explanation. justifications, rants , meeetings or emails required.
Did you ever watch CourtTV and the judge hits that gavel hard on his desk and says "dismissed" - that is how you do it IN YOUR HEAD....now lift that gavel and slam it down....she is now "dismissed ".
When I ended my LTR early this year, one thing I regretted was that I did not do a branch swing when I had the chance. I dumped her, went NC AND looked for new poons. That was successful and I got a lot of poons this year, but I could've got very easy high quality poons if I had done the emotional withdrawal and branch swing that women typically do. As you all know, it's much easier to get more girls when you're already with one (or more). Unfortunately, those same girls were playing way too hard to get AFTER I ended my LTR. :/
If you can stomach it, go with #4 that jophil28 suggested. Else, go NC. Your chick has already withdrawn her emotions from the relationship and is shopping around right now.
If you can stomach it, go with #4 that jophil28 suggested. Else, go NC. Your chick has already withdrawn her emotions from the relationship and is shopping around right now.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Oh, I'm going NC, I just gotta get my apartment keys back 1st. I'm gonna need those! She's already started texting me last night, which I ignored. I think I'm gonna let myself into her place today and see if my keys are there. If they are, I'll take 'em, leave hers, and be done with this mess.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Alright guys, got the keys back, day 1 of NC. I'll need a little time to adjust. I plan on spending a lot of time in the gym, in books, and here on the forum for the first week or so. Then I should feel like going out to sarge.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Nope, Danger. She was in town briefly last night so I showed up unannounced, simply asked for my keys, gave her hers back, and turned around and walked out the door. She's already started with the texts. I'm gonna stay strong, I'm committed to NC.