"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LTR is acting up. What should I do?

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You make a good point Whitepimp, but is that something I do over the phone, or should I do it in person. If its the latter, I CAN'T until Thursday because she's out of town.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Danger said:
jnice,

You do not contact her at all. You just disappear and go NC. There is nothing "to do" in person or over the phone.
Yes.. The OP does not get it yet - let me take a shot at this .

'No Contact' starts one microsecond after you make the DECISION to dump her.. There is nothing more that you need to do to be single - you are single when YOU think you want to be. She is gone when you decide that she is gone.
NO speeches, explanation. justifications, rants , meeetings or emails required.

Did you ever watch CourtTV and the judge hits that gavel hard on his desk and says "dismissed" - that is how you do it IN YOUR HEAD....now lift that gavel and slam it down....she is now "dismissed ".
 

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When I ended my LTR early this year, one thing I regretted was that I did not do a branch swing when I had the chance. I dumped her, went NC AND looked for new poons. That was successful and I got a lot of poons this year, but I could've got very easy high quality poons if I had done the emotional withdrawal and branch swing that women typically do. As you all know, it's much easier to get more girls when you're already with one (or more). Unfortunately, those same girls were playing way too hard to get AFTER I ended my LTR. :/

If you can stomach it, go with #4 that jophil28 suggested. Else, go NC. Your chick has already withdrawn her emotions from the relationship and is shopping around right now.
 

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Oh, I'm going NC, I just gotta get my apartment keys back 1st. I'm gonna need those! She's already started texting me last night, which I ignored. I think I'm gonna let myself into her place today and see if my keys are there. If they are, I'll take 'em, leave hers, and be done with this mess.
 

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Oh, I'm going NC, I just gotta get my apartment keys back 1st
You could always change the locks.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Alright guys, got the keys back, day 1 of NC. I'll need a little time to adjust. I plan on spending a lot of time in the gym, in books, and here on the forum for the first week or so. Then I should feel like going out to sarge.
 

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Nope, Danger. She was in town briefly last night so I showed up unannounced, simply asked for my keys, gave her hers back, and turned around and walked out the door. She's already started with the texts. I'm gonna stay strong, I'm committed to NC.
 
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