jnice48146
Don Juan
You make a good point Whitepimp, but is that something I do over the phone, or should I do it in person. If its the latter, I CAN'T until Thursday because she's out of town.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
LTR is acting up. What should I do?
- Thread starter jnice48146
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Yes.. The OP does not get it yet - let me take a shot at this .Danger said:
'No Contact' starts one microsecond after you make the DECISION to dump her.. There is nothing more that you need to do to be single - you are single when YOU think you want to be. She is gone when you decide that she is gone.
NO speeches, explanation. justifications, rants , meeetings or emails required.
Did you ever watch CourtTV and the judge hits that gavel hard on his desk and says "dismissed" - that is how you do it IN YOUR HEAD....now lift that gavel and slam it down....she is now "dismissed ".
When I ended my LTR early this year, one thing I regretted was that I did not do a branch swing when I had the chance. I dumped her, went NC AND looked for new poons. That was successful and I got a lot of poons this year, but I could've got very easy high quality poons if I had done the emotional withdrawal and branch swing that women typically do. As you all know, it's much easier to get more girls when you're already with one (or more). Unfortunately, those same girls were playing way too hard to get AFTER I ended my LTR. :/
If you can stomach it, go with #4 that jophil28 suggested. Else, go NC. Your chick has already withdrawn her emotions from the relationship and is shopping around right now.
If you can stomach it, go with #4 that jophil28 suggested. Else, go NC. Your chick has already withdrawn her emotions from the relationship and is shopping around right now.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Oh, I'm going NC, I just gotta get my apartment keys back 1st. I'm gonna need those! She's already started texting me last night, which I ignored. I think I'm gonna let myself into her place today and see if my keys are there. If they are, I'll take 'em, leave hers, and be done with this mess.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Alright guys, got the keys back, day 1 of NC. I'll need a little time to adjust. I plan on spending a lot of time in the gym, in books, and here on the forum for the first week or so. Then I should feel like going out to sarge.
jnice48146
Don Juan
Nope, Danger. She was in town briefly last night so I showed up unannounced, simply asked for my keys, gave her hers back, and turned around and walked out the door. She's already started with the texts. I'm gonna stay strong, I'm committed to NC.