“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Alright boys, we're back.

Had a bit of a dry spell there for about 2 months. As it turns out, it's not super fun in suburban Delaware when college girls go home for the summer and everybody goes down to the beach. This took place over the course of 2 separate weekends, so I'll provide the necessary context leading up to the lay.

Lately, due to the fact that most of my friends are lame/in long-term relationships, I've been going out solo. And due to the less-than-ideal circumstances listed above, I've been forced to travel greater distances to scout out places where I'd be able to meet women during the summer, following the exodus known as "graduation".

Last weekend, this led to me checking out Philadelphia, specifically some of the Center City bars. I started out at Barstool and was very underwhelmed; I had been here less than 2 months prior for my birthday, and it was absolutely packed...but now? The downstairs club section was not open, the main dancefloor was barren, and it was the first time I could see straight from one side of the bar to the other. I asked the bartender if this was the norm, and he explained that they experience the same problem as I was having in Delaware; everybody goes to the beaches during the summer. So I gave it some time and swiped on some of the dating apps (by the way, just as many bots as anywhere else, if not more). It didn't really pick up in terms of women, so I left to go to another bar called Wicked Wolf.

Unfortunately, it was pretty much the same story here. The side bars and upstairs section were closed off, and it was just the dancefloor with the adjoining main bar. I saw a couple of cute girls here, but they were all with groups of guys. I didn't have very high expectations, and was considering whether to try another spot. I figured I would end up driving home later, so I finished my drink and resigned to the fact that this was likely to be a standard, dull night.

But then I went downstairs to use the bathroom and ran into the girl this LR is about. She was quite busty and wearing a very deep plunging top. Thin, in good shape, I originally assumed she was Indian, but later found out she was just light-skinned black, Ethiopian, specifically. She was leaving the bathroom while I was on my way in, but I stopped her and I think my exact words were "Woaw, hold on, you're really cute. What's your name?" She was a little tipsy; I'd later find out it was her birthday. She thought I was really cute, too, and when I told her my name, she remarked that it was "an a**hole name" without really giving any explanation. I laughed it off and continued making some small talk with her that I couldn't really remember. What I did remember was that she was making very strong eye contact and didn't shy away when I got close to her. I thought we were going to kiss, here and now, but she told me she needed to go make sure her friend was ok in the bathroom, and that if I waited, she would come back for me.

Fast forward maybe 5 minutes, she and her friend come out. She hadn't expected me to actually wait on her, but was very glad I did. The friend also approved of me, told me it was this girl's birthday, and to make sure she had a good night. She led me around to all her other friends who were at the bar that night for her birthday and introduced me to them as well. We danced around a little, I got very close to her again, and went for the kiss, receiving zero resistance. The rest of the night mostly alternated between us dancing and making out, and taking care of one of her friends who was a particularly sloppy drunk.

Eventually, the bar started closing, and we had to figure out what we were doing afterwards. I'd told this girl I'd driven up for the night and would love to stay with her, though she assured me we wouldn't be having sex, which was fine with me. One of her friends tried exceptionally hard to block me, playing the role of the "mom" for the friend group. She saw me as a total stranger and tried to talk my girl out of leaving with me several times. I'd later find out this girl has been in a toxic relationship for a long time, and just kinda hates men. My girl got tired of all their shenanigans and wanted just the 2 of us to Uber back to her place...but the "mom" guilted her into being responsible for all of them. The solution then was that I would order an Uber XL set for my girl's apartment, and the friends would all walk back to theirs after that. We were making out during most of the car ride, and "mom" kept voicing her disgust. I don't think she took my girl seriously when she agreed that they would walk back after we got dropped off, because she voiced her disbelief when we both got out of the car and left them to their devices.

When we got to her apartment, we pretty much went straight to the bedroom and started getting hot and heavy and undressing. She did stick to her word, so while we had plenty of fun, there was no sex this night. The next morning, I awoke to her getting FaceTime calls from all of her friends from last night, and several of her roommates coming in to wish her a happy birthday. They were also having a lot of fun with discovering that I was 31 years old, since the common consensus is almost always somewhere between 23-26. I got dressed and ordered an Uber to get my car and head home. I kissed my girl goodbye and texted her a little bit, telling her to let me know the next time she needed a "+1 in bed".

Fast forward to this past Thursday, and she texts me asking if I'm going out in Philly again that night. I didn't have work Friday, since it was July 4th, but I did have to get to the gym early because it would have shorter hours. I told her I was considering it, and she let me know which bar she and her friends would be at, and to let her know if I made it.

Here's the thing...my greed nearly got me in trouble this night...

While at work, I had matched with a girl on Tinder who was available this same night...also in Philly. I figured that my girl from last weekend was a "warm lead", so I came to the decision that I would see how things went with this Tinder girl first, and then, based on that, decide how I would end my night.

Since I knew where my girl would be, I took this girl to that Barstool spot I mentioned above. When I told the other girl and her friends that I started out there before moving to Wicked Wolf, they were surprised and told me they don't like Barstool. So I figured it would be a "safe" spot to go where I wouldn't run into her. Well...the date was going fine, but the logistics weren't going to work; she's an au pair and lives with a host family, so I can't go to her place, and since I live with my parents an hour away, she can't come to mine. I started texting the other girl, asking where she was, so I could meet her. Her response? Barstool - she and her friends were at the same bar as me and my date.

Luckily, we didn't see each other, and she told me they left to go to another spot.

I make up an excuse to cut things short with my date, since I know things can't go much further tonight. I leave with her, have a quick but surprisingly passionate makeout session with her (we kissed in the bar, but she came off as a prude to me, turns out she was just shy and doesn't like PDA). We said our goodbyes, and I met up with my girl and some of her friends at another bar shortly before it closed.

We didn't spend much time here. It was another friend's birthday, and the girl who told me to make sure her friend had a good birthday the weekend before was happy to see me. She has a boyfriend who agreed to pick us up, so I rode with them back to the same apartment as last weekend. We had a couple more drinks before going upstairs to her bedroom again. This time, there was sex.

We kept going, on and off, until I ran out of condoms, at which point we both passed out. I couldn't enjoy it too much, as I had to wake up early and rush back home to get my workout in, but it was a good time. Plus, it's kinda nice to have something of a FWB in Philly for whenever I make the trip up - I actually went back to Philly last night to check out some other spots and ran into her and her friends again, with the same end result.

I'll be on vacation next week, for a week, so I won't potentially see her until after that, but it was nice to end that dry spell before coming into beach week, where I have historically had the best luck during the summer. I rushed the second half of this post, but I wanted to keep it within the character limit to not have to post twice, and wanted to put this out so I can relax the rest of tonight. Hopefully, you guys still find it to be a good read.

Have a good night, everybody. Happy 4th.
 

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Good for you for getting inside woman #102. I will go through some quotes a little bit later and provide comments.
 

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What did the “mom” look like? My experience with these Mother Hens is they usually are hideous and jealous of their better looking friends who are getting attention from men and getting laid. And most of the time the hot chicks are well aware of the dynamic.
 

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What did the “mom” look like? My experience with these Mother Hens is they usually are hideous and jealous of their better looking friends who are getting attention from men and getting laid. And most of the time the hot chicks are well aware of the dynamic.
She was fine; not particularly ugly, not particularly hot. White girl, a little shorter than my girl, thin, pretty, but not busty or sexy in any way.

My girl mentioned that all her friends liked me, to which I said, "well, except 'mom'", and she went and told me to disregard her because she's in a toxic relationship where all the friends want them to break up because they're tired of hearing about all the fights.
 

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As it turns out, it's not super fun in suburban Delaware when college girls go home for the summer and everybody goes down to the beach. This took place over the course of 2 separate weekends, so I'll provide the necessary context leading up to the lay.
61% of undergraduate students at University of Delaware are out of state students. 70% of graduate students are out of state. I didn't realize that University of Delaware was a common destination for out of state students. I'm thinking that most of those out of state students are from Pennsylvania and Maryland.

I would have thought most colleges in Delaware would have appealed to in-state students.

I can see how the out of staters would have that affect.

Lately, due to the fact that most of my friends are lame/in long-term relationships, I've been going out solo.
This is common for older males (30+). Older males often lack someone who can go out to bars with them for nightlife approaching. I have dealt with this for many years. This is part of why I am more of a non-bar approacher guy.

The Barstool brand has origins as a sports blogger type website. They eventually did a brand extension to open up some bars in bigger cities.

It makes sense why a Barstool bar would appeal more to males than females. Seems like a lousy place for pickup or even hosting dates most of the year.

She thought I was really cute, too, and when I told her my name, she remarked that it was "an a**hole name" without really giving any explanation. I laughed it off and continued making some small talk with her that I couldn't really remember. What I did remember was that she was making very strong eye contact and didn't shy away when I got close to her
She liked your look. The feedback that you have a first name commonly associated with azzholes helped you too. Immediately, she demonstrated high interest level signs.

One of her friends tried exceptionally hard to block me, playing the role of the "mom" for the friend group. She saw me as a total stranger and tried to talk my girl out of leaving with me several times. I'd later find out this girl has been in a toxic relationship for a long time, and just kinda hates men. My girl got tired of all their shenanigans and wanted just the 2 of us to Uber back to her place...but the "mom" guilted her into being responsible for all of them.
What did the “mom” look like? My experience with these Mother Hens is they usually are hideous and jealous of their better looking friends who are getting attention from men and getting laid. And most of the time the hot chicks are well aware of the dynamic.
I dislike those "mother hen" types. "Mother hen" type friends are common in nightlife venues because females go out with their friends. The "mother hen" of the group is usually one of the least attractive females in a given group. In general, "mother hens" are mids at best, usually subpar. Their attitudes stink too.

Roosh used to mention how much these "mother hen" types tried to penis block him.

the date was going fine, but the logistics weren't going to work; she's an au pair and lives with a host family, so I can't go to her place, and since I live with my parents an hour away, she can't come to mine. I started texting the other girl, asking where she was, so I could meet her. Her response? Barstool - she and her friends were at the same bar as me and my date.

I make up an excuse to cut things short with my date, since I know things can't go much further tonight. I leave with her, have a quick but surprisingly passionate makeout session with her (we kissed in the bar, but she came off as a prude to me, turns out she was just shy and doesn't like PDA). We said our goodbyes, and I met up with my girl and some of her friends at another bar shortly before it closed.
What are the chances you will be able to bang the au pair in the future? Good for you for bailing on a date that was not going to result in immediate sex and pursuing something that had a higher chance in resulting in immediate sex.
 

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61% of undergraduate students at University of Delaware are out of state students. 70% of graduate students are out of state. I didn't realize that University of Delaware was a common destination for out of state students. I'm thinking that most of those out of state students are from Pennsylvania and Maryland.

I would have thought most colleges in Delaware would have appealed to in-state students.
It also gets quite a few people from New York and New Jersey. I initially went out of state because I found Delaware to be extremely boring, and assumed the college would be an extension of that.

Little did I know that it was something of a party school with a good number of attractive and promiscuous women. I did miss UNCW, though, because those girls were beautiful. It was just a much smaller school with a heavier Christian influence.

It makes sense why a Barstool bar would appeal more to males than females. Seems like a lousy place for pickup or even hosting dates most of the year.
It's been pretty good most times I've gone. This was just the first time I've visited during the summer months, and I was surprised that Philadelphia, being more of a population hub than where I live, has pretty much the same problems as Delaware - it's just less of an issue since there are so many more people.

What are the chances you will be able to bang the au pair in the future? Good for you for bailing on a date that was not going to result in immediate sex and pursuing something that had a higher chance in resulting in immediate sex.
Once? Very high.

Multiple times? Very low.

She lives about an hour away, just like the other girl, but unlike the other girl, she cannot have guys over since she's caring for the child of a gay couple. She told me they have cameras set up throughout the home, otherwise I probably could've went back with her. After making out with her, I told her she's making me second-guess my decision, and that maybe I should just get us a room. She laughed and told me to let her know if I did.

The thing is, I've done this before, 3 times now, I think, and it's never been worth the $100-$200 just to have a place to f***. Like, if this were my dream girl, then maybe. But otherwise, I'm not willing to take on the necessary expense for that to be a regular thing.

She is open to seeing me again. However, like this girl, I'm not seeing either of them for at least 2 weeks.
 

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She was fine; not particularly ugly, not particularly hot. White girl, a little shorter than my girl, thin, pretty, but not busty or sexy in any way.

My girl mentioned that all her friends liked me, to which I said, "well, except 'mom'", and she went and told me to disregard her because she's in a toxic relationship where all the friends want them to break up because they're tired of hearing about all the fights.
Let me get mom. I’ll save her from that toxic relationship lmao.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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I was surprised that Philadelphia, being more of a population hub than where I live, has pretty much the same problems as Delaware - it's just less of an issue since there are so many more people.
Dallas doesn't have the problems that Philadelphia & Delaware have in the summer.

Southern Methodist University (SMU) is the biggest Dallas college. SMU has a moderate at best impact on the Dallas scene. Dallas' scene is more of post-college 20s/30s people.

Dallas' post-college 20s/30s people don't go away for the entire summer. At best, some might go away for a week or two.

The upper middle class/upper class of Metro Dallas are well known for going to Northern New Mexico (mainly Santa Fe and Taos) and the Colorado mountain towns in the summer months. The people who tend to do this are established couples. Some have couples and some are empty nesters with adult children. Those people leaving Dallas for periods of the summer doesn't impact Dallas' mating scene.

What are the chances you will be able to bang the au pair in the future?
Once? Very high.

Multiple times? Very low.
You don't think one night in a Comfort Inn or Quality Inn is worth it for sex with a young au pair. It is dependent on your financial realities.

I admire how you get laid as a broke male.
 

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You don't think one night in a Comfort Inn or Quality Inn is worth it for sex with a young au pair. It is dependent on your financial realities.

I admire how you get laid as a broke male.
She's attractive, but she's not a high priority.

This other girl seems content with the casual arrangement we have currently. Plus, I'm going on vacation. If she's still interested after 2 weeks and is willing to go to a hotel room without requiring me to jump through hoops (such as taking her out on another date first), then I'd consider it.

But if I have this girl where I don't have to spend on, where I can stay overnight for free, then there isn't much reason to immediately jump on this other one. If I didn't have this other girl in the picture, I might be willing to jump through that hoop to put an end to the dry spell.
 

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Bro props on this.

But how the hell do you remember everything? You are remembering how you met her, where you met her, what she said, what she said, what the bartender said, what car picked you up, many times you did it, etc, etc, etc,

I can’t remember what I had for Breakfast yesterday.
 

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young au pair.
If she's still interested after 2 weeks and is willing to go to a hotel room without requiring me to jump through hoops (such as taking her out on another date first), then I'd consider it.
That makes sense to me.

This other girl seems content with the casual arrangement we have currently.

if I have this girl where I don't have to spend on, where I can stay overnight for free, then there isn't much reason to immediately jump on this other one. If I didn't have this other girl in the picture, I might be willing to jump through that hoop to put an end to the dry spell.
The arrangement that you have with LR 102 seems like a good arrangement.
 

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Bro props on this.

But how the hell do you remember everything? You are remembering how you met her, where you met her, what she said, what she said, what the bartender said, what car picked you up, many times you did it, etc, etc, etc,

I can’t remember what I had for Breakfast yesterday.
If you were intending to write up breakfast reports, you probably would.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Bro props on this.

But how the hell do you remember everything? You are remembering how you met her, where you met her, what she said, what she said, what the bartender said, what car picked you up, many times you did it, etc, etc, etc,

I can’t remember what I had for Breakfast yesterday.
I've always had a pretty good memory and value being organized, so that kinda bleeds into other aspects of my life.

I still remember my elementary school lunch number. I could remember homework assignments and rarely had to write things down. I remember the weights for my exercises without having to log them. And in this particular case, I wasn't very drunk because I had planned to be sober enough to drive myself home that first night.

I think it helps having done this so often that while I'm not in my head in the moment, I'm very aware of what's going well, or not so well, and can usually recall the moments that I found important.

EDIT: By the way, her body count is 8, me being the 8th. I didn't ask, but she was curious since I was much older, and decided to tell me hers first.
 
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