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[nicksaiz65]

How about c0ckblocking. Lotta the time, it happens. Do I have to defuse the ticking bomb before she gets jealous and interjects? I had a scenario the other day, where I went up to couple of girls on the street, focused on one, and the other friend felt the need to interject and say that she's seeing someone. Wtf? Who asked you? I told her that she can speak for herself, have a good day, and bounced.

That sh!t is annoying. I used to introduce myself to groups but I still ran into the same issue. So lately anytime I deal with c0ckblockers I tell them the girl I'm into can speak for herself, and just walk away.

What I plan on doing now is just ignoring c0ckblockers and continue the interaction if the girl I'm into is clearly into it. If not, peace

Yeah.. this is common. I’m out as we speak and it happened haha.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Yeah.. this is common. I’m out as we speak and it happened haha.

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[SW15]

I’m out as we speak and it happened haha.

It sounds like a bad Friday night.

 

[BPH]

I thought about this last night...

When it comes to lay reports, we usually have the story of what led to the close, but there's usually not much about what happens afterwards. So, for this and for my 101st I want to describe what the last 2 weeks were like to give some of you guys a realistic perspective of what the aftermath usually looks like from sleeping around.

Following date 2, and the night of sex that came with it, we made tentative plans for a 3rd date where we would get margaritas at a nearby bar and "not have to worry about driving home", with the implication that this time I would spend the night.

She agreed.

Later that week on Thursday I would end up sleeping with my 101st woman who I'd met through matching on Hinge. This girl drunkenly hit me up that night, when I briefly described that I was worried I would have to juggle both women, while preparing an excuse to have to leave early so I could satisfy both women.

That problem solved itself when she decided that she was probably too drunk to see me that night, instead opting for Papa John's and an early bedtime, talking about "next time". I thought "next time" would be Friday night, as she happened to be out at the bar I was going to with my buddy that night - except now she was on her period.

No big deal, I told her that whenever she's up for those margaritas, she just has to let me know.

We text a little back-and-forth throughout the next week. She's still pretty responsive, but nowhere near as invested over text as she was that first week when we were setting up the dates. Whether that's due to waning interest, focusing on her upcoming graduation, or both, I'm unsure.

That next weekend there's another chance meeting with her at the same bar, this time without my friend. Her friends all meet me, we have a couple drinks, enjoy a fun time, and she invites me to leave with her, which I do. We end up having sex once, then she passes out and I spend the night, leaving in the morning after kissing her goodbye and all that.

The next night, same bar, same story, except she can't have me over tonight because she and her friend are leaving early in the morning to go up to visit her family in New York. While it is nice to see her, the fact that she's been at this bar now every time that I've been at it has stopped me from meeting other women. Additionally, that girl who has a problem with the fact that I'm into younger women is a friend of hers, and she is ALWAYS here now too. Because I would prefer to keep sleeping with this girl for the short time she's around, I don't go around meeting other girls, and she doesn't go around meeting other guys

Same pattern of texting throughout the week, with still no commitment on date 3. I ask if she's free this weekend, and she tells me I probably won't see her because she's going to a semi-formal with some friends.

I'm at the same bar and she and some of her friends from last time show up AGAIN. Turns out, once semi-formal was done, this was their destination. It's her, one of her friends, that friend's boyfriend who I'd met the week prior, and her date - a gay guy (don't worry, I talked to him, he's flaming, I'm not concerned).

She can't have me over tonight because the gay guy is sleeping over in the same bed and she would be flying to Kentucky until next week, but might be able to see me when she comes back Wednesday (at least I think she said Wednesday, hard to remember).

So I let that go, enjoy the night with them until everything closes down, and that's about it. My thought is that maybe she's losing interest because she's seeing me too often - damn near every time I go out, since it's at the same bar where I get hooked up by the bartenders. It's hard to tell because she's often bratty and sarcastic, but I don't know if there's any truth to that thought, or if she's just busy saying bye to her friends, getting ready for finals, and preparing to move back home.

I figure I'll text her at some point tomorrow asking if she's free later this week (plus I may be occupied anyway, I have a tentative Tuesday drink date with a girl I met last Saturday, but despite putting her number in my phone and making sure she spelled her name right multiple times, has not texted back, so who knows if that's just gonna be a flake).

If she is, great. If she's not, or I get ghosted or something, I'll just tell her it was nice getting to know her for the short time I did.

I'll provide an update for 101 later. Her story will be much shorter, but I'm leaving work here in about 5 minutes, so that will have to wait.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I thought about this last night...

When it comes to lay reports, we usually have the story of what led to the close, but there's usually not much about what happens afterwards. So, for this and for my 101st I want to describe what the last 2 weeks were like to give some of you guys a realistic perspective of what the aftermath usually looks like from sleeping around.

Following date 2, and the night of sex that came with it, we made tentative plans for a 3rd date where we would get margaritas at a nearby bar and "not have to worry about driving home", with the implication that this time I would spend the night.

She agreed.

Later that week on Thursday I would end up sleeping with my 101st woman who I'd met through matching on Hinge. This girl drunkenly hit me up that night, when I briefly described that I was worried I would have to juggle both women, while preparing an excuse to have to leave early so I could satisfy both women.

That problem solved itself when she decided that she was probably too drunk to see me that night, instead opting for Papa John's and an early bedtime, talking about "next time". I thought "next time" would be Friday night, as she happened to be out at the bar I was going to with my buddy that night - except now she was on her period.

No big deal, I told her that whenever she's up for those margaritas, she just has to let me know.

We text a little back-and-forth throughout the next week. She's still pretty responsive, but nowhere near as invested over text as she was that first week when we were setting up the dates. Whether that's due to waning interest, focusing on her upcoming graduation, or both, I'm unsure.

That next weekend there's another chance meeting with her at the same bar, this time without my friend. Her friends all meet me, we have a couple drinks, enjoy a fun time, and she invites me to leave with her, which I do. We end up having sex once, then she passes out and I spend the night, leaving in the morning after kissing her goodbye and all that.

The next night, same bar, same story, except she can't have me over tonight because she and her friend are leaving early in the morning to go up to visit her family in New York. While it is nice to see her, the fact that she's been at this bar now every time that I've been at it has stopped me from meeting other women. Additionally, that girl who has a problem with the fact that I'm into younger women is a friend of hers, and she is ALWAYS here now too. Because I would prefer to keep sleeping with this girl for the short time she's around, I don't go around meeting other girls, and she doesn't go around meeting other guys

Same pattern of texting throughout the week, with still no commitment on date 3. I ask if she's free this weekend, and she tells me I probably won't see her because she's going to a semi-formal with some friends.

I'm at the same bar and she and some of her friends from last time show up AGAIN. Turns out, once semi-formal was done, this was their destination. It's her, one of her friends, that friend's boyfriend who I'd met the week prior, and her date - a gay guy (don't worry, I talked to him, he's flaming, I'm not concerned).

She can't have me over tonight because the gay guy is sleeping over in the same bed and she would be flying to Kentucky until next week, but might be able to see me when she comes back Wednesday (at least I think she said Wednesday, hard to remember).

So I let that go, enjoy the night with them until everything closes down, and that's about it. My thought is that maybe she's losing interest because she's seeing me too often - damn near every time I go out, since it's at the same bar where I get hooked up by the bartenders. It's hard to tell because she's often bratty and sarcastic, but I don't know if there's any truth to that thought, or if she's just busy saying bye to her friends, getting ready for finals, and preparing to move back home.

I figure I'll text her at some point tomorrow asking if she's free later this week (plus I may be occupied anyway, I have a tentative Tuesday drink date with a girl I met last Saturday, but despite putting her number in my phone and making sure she spelled her name right multiple times, has not texted back, so who knows if that's just gonna be a flake).

If she is, great. If she's not, or I get ghosted or something, I'll just tell her it was nice getting to know her for the short time I did.

I'll provide an update for 101 later. Her story will be much shorter, but I'm leaving work here in about 5 minutes, so that will have to wait.

You might be playing with fire here. If she even feels a small sense of relief when you’re not around, it’s probably a sign her interest is fading. Familiarity and overexposure may cause this.

But like everything in life, everything has an ending…

 

[BPH]

You might be playing with fire here. If she even feels a small sense of relief when you’re not around, it’s probably a sign her interest is fading. Familiarity and overexposure may cause this.

But like everything in life, everything has an ending…

I'm aware, I'd like to see her a few more times, and having somebody to visit if I ever go up to NY to see my brother would be fun.

But I'm also not delusional - she's graduating, is currently taking final exams, pursuing a spot on the dance team for an NBA team, and has established relationships with her friends that I'm sure she cares about much more than me.

On one hand, if she didn't want to see me, she'd probably stop showing up at the only bar she's ever seen me at.

On the other hand, knowing this, if she's going to show up and expects to see me there, why not leave with me?

Either way, I'll text her tomorrow and see what her plans for her last week look like, and if they'd involve me.

 

[SW15]

I'd like to see her a few more times, and having somebody to visit if I ever go up to NY to see my brother would be fun.

I'm also not delusional - she's graduating, is currently taking final exams, pursuing a spot on the dance team for an NBA team, and has established relationships with her friends that I'm sure she cares about much more than me.

It's tough to start an interaction with a woman in her 2nd semester of senior year of college and have it last for any meaningful length of time. The most realistic scenario is a short term sexual encounter. I think your Early Frame Announcement with this woman was short term sex rather than a longer term sexual interaction.

Many college-formed relationships end when one or both people are graduating. There are 3 scenarios involving dating a female in her senior year of college.

1. Female senior is dating male senior: It's very difficult for 2 graduates to get their first post-college jobs in the same city. When a college senior male dates a college senior female, the breakup happens immediately at graduation when both parties get jobs in distant cities if they are wise. Sometimes, graduating couples try a long distance relationship and that ends up failing because one or both people start having sex with new people in the new post-college city.

2. Female senior dates male underclassman (usually a junior): Dating a male junior is the most realistic. A female senior usually isn't going to date a male freshman or sophomore year. It's possible for a female senior to have short term sex with a freshman-sophomore, but even that would be an uncommon situation. A more serious relationship between a female senior and a male junior could start any time in a woman's senior year and causes a big decision at graduation.

In most situations, the female senior will graduate, take a job in a new city, and move on with her life.

It's possible that she might try long distance with the male for 1 year until she graduates. It's unlikely that she got her first job in the same city as the college. If she did get her first job in the same city as the college, the relationship is likely to continue and often ends before the male graduates. When the woman's first job takes her to a new city or she lacks a job at graduation and has to go live with parents/a parent not in the same city as the college, it puts a lot of strain on the relationship. Long distance happens most often in this scenario.

A less common situation is that the woman takes a menial job (like retail, restaurant, coffee barista) for a year in the college town to see what happens to the relationship during the male's senior year. I know a female who did this. She graduated jobless. Instead of going to her parents' home in a bigger city with more job opportunities, she waited out her boyfriend's senior year with a menial job in the same city as the college. Most people thought she was irrational for doing so. At the time of her graduation, she and her boyfriend only known each other about 2 months and been an official couple about 1 month. That wasn't even the majority of her senior year. This ended up resulting in a multiple year long term relationship for her. I think there is an argument that her irrationality created a positive outcome for her. The rational move for her would have been to end the short term relationship, go to the city where her parents lived, and start her post-college life looking for a job in the city where her parents lived.

3. Female senior dates male not in school living in the city of her college: This is the current situation with @BPH . What the female typically does depends on two factors...

• The quality of the city where the college is
• What the male is doing with his post-college life in that city

If the college is located in a decent city for employment and social life, she might have plans to stick around that city. In @BPH 's situation, most college students are not going to want to stick around Wilmington, DE. They are typically going to go to bigger cities in that region (Philadelphia, New York, Baltimore, Washington DC). In this case, the woman is going to New York City. I'm guessing she has a job lined up in NYC. She's also planning to audition for next season's Knicks or Nets dance team. Those are big plans that most women are not going to give up, even for a 6'0", fit/muscular man. There are plenty of 6'0"+, fit/muscular men in NYC. If she can get a side gig as a Knicks/Nets dancer, she will have opportunities to meet elite men doing that. Knicks/Nets dancer status will make her very desirable to all men in the city. Women don't do side gigs as pro sports dance team members for the money, it's for the status and the opportunity to meet elite men.

I think most relationships between a female senior and post-college guy in the city of her college end around her graduation. Long distance is less of a possibility here because the man already has a life in that city.