Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Lower body fat, or gain muscle mass

naluholo

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I've been out of the gym for too long. I'm 6'1" and 180 lbs. and wanting to get back into shape. Should I concentrate on losing body fat first, then gain the muscle mass, or should I gain mass then drop the fat (not that there's a whole lot)? Or do both at the same time?

Thanks in advance for the advice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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italostud

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Depends on what your BF% is and what your goals are.
 

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Get a cardio routine going and slowly add weight training. If you're nutrition is in order you'll gain muscle and lose fat at the same time.
 

italostud

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"Damn" can mean a lot of things. I'm assuming you mean from girls. 17% is a little high. You probably can't see your abs. If you want, you can drop down to 170lbs or so. That should give you a good amount of vascularity. The girls will like this. If I were you however, I'd hit the weights hard, eat, and bulk up to 230lbs or so. Then spend even more time getting shredded down to like 210lbs or something. Again it's totally up to you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AmericanOutlaw

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If you're not used to working out, then you have to lose the bodyfat first. Your body is geared to storing calories in fat, not muscle. If you 'bulk up' you'll probably end up putting on more fat than muscle. So cut it first. Cardio at least three times a week, lift three times a week, eat all day long but no more than 12x your body weight in calories. Maybe find a workout program with specifics.
 
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