"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lower Abs

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lie down, raise your legs up slowly. Then lift them back down, but never let your legs or feet touch the floor. You will feel burn on your lower abs if you keep doing it. You can intensify with ankle weights.

If you're trying to get a visible 6-pack however, you have to do cardio (ex: running) in order to burn the fat and let the muscles show.
 

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Along with leg raises, you can do reverse crunches. Remember though, you MUST have low bodyfat. For most guys, the lower abs are the last thing to come in as you lose fat.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do crunches in which you do not "curl" up. Keep the spine straight. This forces the lower abs to do more work than the upper pair.
 

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Originally posted by -.-
fact: there is no lower ab; just like there is no inner chest.

search http://forum.bodybuilding.com for more details. if you're too lazy to use the search function, feel free to post your questions.. lol.
It's more complicated than just blindly saying you can't train part of a muscle.

It's true that the abs are one muscle, and you can't isolate one part of a muscle. However, you CAN work one part of a muscle more than other parts.

Cool that you're posting the link to bodybuilding.com, by the way. I'm a regular poster there.
 

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You have your abs. You have fold lines in your abs which help you bend. Is there abdominal muscle below the 'four pack'? is there any muscle there? Yes. Then there are lower abs. Technically.

However, it's agreed that they hardly do much. It's hard to work definition into it, just a bit more strength. Theres your vague average answer.
 

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Originally posted by selfcontrol
It's more complicated than just blindly saying you can't train part of a muscle.

It's true that the abs are one muscle, and you can't isolate one part of a muscle. However, you CAN work one part of a muscle more than other parts.

Cool that you're posting the link to bodybuilding.com, by the way. I'm a regular poster there.
True, but then... Basically, most people think they need to work their lower abs when actually, they don't.

It's just that there are more fat in the lower abdominal region that the upper and middle abdominal.

So if they cut, most will find out they really need not work it after all. :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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