"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been speaking with this chick for a while (she was out of town). Anyways, she sent me a bunch of singles, we've hung out 1 on 1 a few times before. Lately, she's been sending me txt's saying "Hey xxx is tonight, are you going?"

Today I said that i was in the mood for Italian food (be both like it) and I asked if she was in the mood for it too. She pretty much immediately asked who else was going and if it was cool to get a group of people together to go, and that something else, like even getting coffee with people would be cool too.

A girl turning down a 1:1 dinner to a nicer restaurant, is this a sign of low interest?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yea, I think i was FZ'd as well.

Got alot of signals that she liked me ie always catching her glancing at me, our mutual friends seemed to be pretty sure she liked me (not that she mentioned it to anyone) and I got other "go signals" as well.

Then again, I get signals like this....
 
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Not a good sign. Did you kino escalate during your previous one-on-ones? From what you wrote, that you "got a lot of signals" and "caught her glancing at you" it appears you haven't kissed her? If you didn't escalate effectively, then being too slow to make a move could have left you in the friend zone.
 
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JJMcLure said:
Not a good sign. Did you kino escalate during your previous one-on-ones? From what you wrote, that you "got a lot of signals" and "caught her glancing at you" it appears you haven't kissed her? If you didn't escalate effectively, then being too slow to make a move could have left you in the friend zone.
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No Kino at all. Very tough since she is pretty religious. I only hung out with her 1:1 once before really. Most girls I will use some Kino, but let's face it. Kissing to religious girls can be considered equivalent to "going all the way" for regular girls, so it can be tough. I will kino with "regular girls"

My cousin is getting married (she is going to the wedding tomorrow with her girlfriend, they are both single) and I am the best man at the wedding and will be looking pretty sharp in my tux. Any special advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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