Yeah ok i was wondering, the girl im interested in seems to have low IL. Like im almost 100% of the time the conversation starter, usually on aim. Thats how we talk mostly, we are internet kids. If i didnt message her odds are she probably wouldnt message me. Now i dont act AFC in anyway, its just how things start. Is there anyway where i can get her to start the conversations?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Low IL , how to turn the tables?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
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yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think i probably did come on stronger than i needed to. But im pretty sure i can grab her interest but im not 100% sure how to do it.Originally posted by IRONMAN22
okay take a look at my first reply and really think about that, if your still clueless answer me those questions and Ill tell you whatsup mang
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
Generally speaking, it's quite difficult to raise IL from passive awareness to sexual interest.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
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theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In my experience, if a girl really likes you, she'll do the pursuing. Right now I have a girl that's pursuing me very heavily, and I'm not that interested in her. I'm not even leading her on, and I'm not even flirting with her, but she is coming on super strong.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.