Yeah ok i was wondering, the girl im interested in seems to have low IL. Like im almost 100% of the time the conversation starter, usually on aim. Thats how we talk mostly, we are internet kids. If i didnt message her odds are she probably wouldnt message me. Now i dont act AFC in anyway, its just how things start. Is there anyway where i can get her to start the conversations?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Low IL , how to turn the tables?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
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yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think i probably did come on stronger than i needed to. But im pretty sure i can grab her interest but im not 100% sure how to do it.Originally posted by IRONMAN22
okay take a look at my first reply and really think about that, if your still clueless answer me those questions and Ill tell you whatsup mang
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
Generally speaking, it's quite difficult to raise IL from passive awareness to sexual interest.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
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theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
In my experience, if a girl really likes you, she'll do the pursuing. Right now I have a girl that's pursuing me very heavily, and I'm not that interested in her. I'm not even leading her on, and I'm not even flirting with her, but she is coming on super strong.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.