Yeah ok i was wondering, the girl im interested in seems to have low IL. Like im almost 100% of the time the conversation starter, usually on aim. Thats how we talk mostly, we are internet kids. If i didnt message her odds are she probably wouldnt message me. Now i dont act AFC in anyway, its just how things start. Is there anyway where i can get her to start the conversations?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Low IL , how to turn the tables?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
no there are not any other ways mang, only 3 questions I have, and its this how much effort did you put into talking to this broad? does she know what you look like? did you come on to her with too much effort would you think?
once these are answered theres only one thing I have to say: dont hang all over one broad, if shes not interested so be it, you did all you could, remember: fine broads come a dime in a dozen, so you know theres plenty more :yes: ..
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yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
yes we have seen each other, we met at school. Ive known her for hella long time now actually. Im not hung up on her, but id love a chance to get into that. And interest levels change sometimes. Trust me she can be quite responsive sometimes.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think i probably did come on stronger than i needed to. But im pretty sure i can grab her interest but im not 100% sure how to do it.Originally posted by IRONMAN22
okay take a look at my first reply and really think about that, if your still clueless answer me those questions and Ill tell you whatsup mang
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
Generally speaking, it's quite difficult to raise IL from passive awareness to sexual interest.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
It would have to start by spending more time together, alone.
boom
theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
theres your mistake, coming on too strong, if this broad cared any she would also try get a hold of you, STOP kidding yourself and let it go mang. Just remember fine broads come and go, there are so many, shrug it off and move on, just learn from this experience.
listen: read my post thats directed to any AFC thats made a bad move, its no big deal alright
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In my experience, if a girl really likes you, she'll do the pursuing. Right now I have a girl that's pursuing me very heavily, and I'm not that interested in her. I'm not even leading her on, and I'm not even flirting with her, but she is coming on super strong.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.
On the flip side, I've also known girls who are not that interested, the behavior corresponds.
The key to realize is that you can't come on strong to a girl who isn't giving you clear buying signals or just making it clear that she's into you, otherwise you'll get nowhere. Girls are more aggressive than they get credit for. If they like you, you'll know it somehow.
Forget about wasting your time trying to raise IL in some girl. I agree with IRONMAN22 that there are so many women out there, don't waste your time on one that isn't into you.