My gf just left again for the start of her college semester, and when we talk on the phone i just have no confidence. I get worried about what she's doing and about other guys. I just wanted to get some tips on how to boost my confidence because I believe my lack of it might start to create some problems.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Start cheating before she does. Long distance relationships have no chance. Sorry, man. When I was college age, I would have argued the point, that mine was different. But it's not. You have low confidence for a reason; this is a very sh!tty arrangement for you.
mastacheef
Don Juan
a buddy of mine even took his gf to college, didn't last, college is the start of a new life (in most eyes) you get to start fresh and not linger around the past, i'd have to agree with these guys, get rid of her man its the only way
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
DrD77 said:
ok, then tell her you want to see other people and be honest about it. The words you use are not as important as fvcking other girls.
Nikos75
Don Juan
This could help
I would recommend that you stop calling her often and start going out to meet new people ( not meaning only new girls). Start doing new things, like studying a foreign language -and practice-, a martial art, or even playing music.
The bottom line is that if you are too busy having a life on your own you won't fret over what she does and with whom.
An interesting side effect will be that as you get more interests you are going to improve yourself and your social life. And when you meet your GF -possibly during Spring Break- you' ll be a better -more interesting- man.
Moreover, if she knows that you've got stuff to do and people -including girls-to meet she'll start wondering about her hold upon you AND lose some of her confidence AND start to feel jealousy herself. Dude, give her the opportunity to miss you and LET HER BE JEALOUS. It works wonders.
I would recommend that you stop calling her often and start going out to meet new people ( not meaning only new girls). Start doing new things, like studying a foreign language -and practice-, a martial art, or even playing music.
The bottom line is that if you are too busy having a life on your own you won't fret over what she does and with whom.
An interesting side effect will be that as you get more interests you are going to improve yourself and your social life. And when you meet your GF -possibly during Spring Break- you' ll be a better -more interesting- man.
Moreover, if she knows that you've got stuff to do and people -including girls-to meet she'll start wondering about her hold upon you AND lose some of her confidence AND start to feel jealousy herself. Dude, give her the opportunity to miss you and LET HER BE JEALOUS. It works wonders.
I love how every time I post and mention me and my gf are going to different colleges you guys instantly say she is gonna cheat so I should first. Do you all have abandonment issues? Thanks Nikos for the actual advice I asked for. And by the way guys me and my gf have been going to different colleges for about a year now and neither of us have cheated. And studies prove that Long-term relationships stand as much of a chance as a natural relationship. My girl isn't gonna cheat, she's not a dumb slut like all the girls you guys have dated (or maybe you guys just aren't satisfying them enough). And cheaters are pieces of ****. So thanks SoSuave for never actually encouraging me, except for a select few, and never helping.