"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Loving someone vs being "in love"
- Thread starter speakeasy
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i am in love with my husband.
there is a difference.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
For instance, I love my daughter, my mother, my best friend Derek, and my wife, but I only ƒuck my wife. I express love in many different ways to those I do love, but the motive is the same. In the converse, in my past, I have had sex with women that I never loved. That's a behavior separate from a motive.
However, that's not what you're asking about SPEAKEASY. I think what you're getting at is the common social convention women will use when they say "I love you, I'm just no IN LOVE with you", which is really women's covert way of trying to tell you that they have feelings of comfort and security with you, but they really aren't interested in ƒucking you any longer.
To be in love with someone is something that is more conditional and feelings develop by either yourself investing time or the other investing time in you. You can fall out of these loves faster and be in love shorter than loving someone else.
examples:
you may have girlfriends/wifes/boyfriends/husbands that you may love for a long time but usually when things end/break up/divorce you move on for another life partner.
When your mother dies you never forget her and there is no other place to find a replacement mother/daughter/son/etc.
I'm not saying only family members will fit into this but usually when you love someone they will always be around you one way or another. no matter what happens. When its unconditional love, you will always have faith in that person to be there for you, when its conditional like most relationships early on or less serious relationships, when its over you don't expect them to get your "back" later on.