"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Loving someone vs being "in love"
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i am in love with my husband.
there is a difference.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
For instance, I love my daughter, my mother, my best friend Derek, and my wife, but I only ƒuck my wife. I express love in many different ways to those I do love, but the motive is the same. In the converse, in my past, I have had sex with women that I never loved. That's a behavior separate from a motive.
However, that's not what you're asking about SPEAKEASY. I think what you're getting at is the common social convention women will use when they say "I love you, I'm just no IN LOVE with you", which is really women's covert way of trying to tell you that they have feelings of comfort and security with you, but they really aren't interested in ƒucking you any longer.
To be in love with someone is something that is more conditional and feelings develop by either yourself investing time or the other investing time in you. You can fall out of these loves faster and be in love shorter than loving someone else.
examples:
you may have girlfriends/wifes/boyfriends/husbands that you may love for a long time but usually when things end/break up/divorce you move on for another life partner.
When your mother dies you never forget her and there is no other place to find a replacement mother/daughter/son/etc.
I'm not saying only family members will fit into this but usually when you love someone they will always be around you one way or another. no matter what happens. When its unconditional love, you will always have faith in that person to be there for you, when its conditional like most relationships early on or less serious relationships, when its over you don't expect them to get your "back" later on.