Loving someone vs being "in love"

[speakeasy]

What do you think the difference is? Or is it in your opinion just another way of saying the same? Is "in love" more of an infatuation?

 

[CaptainJ]

I think "in love" is the real deal, because it shows mutual love "They are in love". Loving someone though implies that they could love them in a non sexual way or in a way in which they are not soul mates.

 

[CaptainJ]

Double post

 

[penkitten]

i love my mother, my children and my brothers.
i am in love with my husband.

there is a difference.

 

[speakeasy]

i love my mother, my children and my brothers.
i am in love with my husband.

there is a difference.

But some people live in sexless marriages where they may love their spouse, but the feelings of passion are dead. I wouldn't say they are still "in love".

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Here's how I look at love. A lot of people feel compelled for one reason or another that they have to classify and categorize the different types of love. A lot of people would like you to believe there are differing kinds of love like Agape, Erotic, Fraternal, Parental, etc., this is nonsense. Love is universal, and all these types and descriptions and qualifications are really only referring how this love is expressed. They are behavior with the same motivator.

For instance, I love my daughter, my mother, my best friend Derek, and my wife, but I only ƒuck my wife. I express love in many different ways to those I do love, but the motive is the same. In the converse, in my past, I have had sex with women that I never loved. That's a behavior separate from a motive.

However, that's not what you're asking about SPEAKEASY. I think what you're getting at is the common social convention women will use when they say "I love you, I'm just no IN LOVE with you", which is really women's covert way of trying to tell you that they have feelings of comfort and security with you, but they really aren't interested in ƒucking you any longer.

 

[AAAgent]

When you love someone, i think its more of an unconditional act where you can't control. to fall out of this unconditional love will probably take ALOT of time or some drastic events to occur.

To be in love with someone is something that is more conditional and feelings develop by either yourself investing time or the other investing time in you. You can fall out of these loves faster and be in love shorter than loving someone else.

examples:
you may have girlfriends/wifes/boyfriends/husbands that you may love for a long time but usually when things end/break up/divorce you move on for another life partner.

When your mother dies you never forget her and there is no other place to find a replacement mother/daughter/son/etc.

I'm not saying only family members will fit into this but usually when you love someone they will always be around you one way or another. no matter what happens. When its unconditional love, you will always have faith in that person to be there for you, when its conditional like most relationships early on or less serious relationships, when its over you don't expect them to get your "back" later on.