"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bible_Belt
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zekko
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Women like successful men, they like the top dog.
They like a man who can go out there and succeed.
If a man is successful, he's going to have money (materialistically speaking).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Drdeee
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Woman that love a poor broke man are usually unkempt settlers that aren't good looking themselves and then find a man that is in their looks/talent bracket and go to work on them making them theirs.Kal_Luke said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Jake_tha_Boss
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Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Without warning------whip out your DYCK and whip out your DOLLARS at the same time...and whichever one she reaches for FIRST is the one she loves the MOST.:yes:
Just kidding...(or AM I?)
VU
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Dear VU,Victory Unlimited said:
Would you please PM me about coming over to the county jail to bail me out?
Thank you.
I usually warn them first...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Expressed ambition will almost ALWAYS equal existing money in her mind. The hamster running furiously in her brain is desperately looking to rationalize being with you if there is initial attraction, and all you have to do is express ambition, display the potential to use that ambition (note that I'm not saying that you actually have to use that ambition), and she will be satisfied about the money issue.
As an aside, girls like you for the potential that they see in you. Not just financially, but in the social hierarchy that you will provide for her especially. Show leadership and ambition, and she will love you.
Upside
Senior Don Juan
Singles or hundos? This requires experimenting...Victory Unlimited said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.