"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Love in the 18th century

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One of my friends is those "Renaissance fair" types, and some of the stuff he says about love/relationships in the 18th or 19th century is pretty damned scary.

-You couldn't initiate conversation with a woman unless someone introduces the two of you
-Women couldn't hang out with guys unless they want to be seen as a slvt
-An unmarried man and woman in the same room was frowned upon
-If you're poor or come from a crap family, talking to a chick from an important family was a no-no
-On the bright side people were very sexually active, as long as nobody knows about it

(Of course, I think this is more a European thing. In America there wasn't as much class-based society)


Wondered how you guys would've DJed back then ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In 1873, the Comstock Law was passed. Named after Anthony Comstock, the Comstock Law made illegal the advertising of any sort of birth control, and it also allowed the postal service to confiscate condoms sold through the mail.
 

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i think some of that is BS because in the art of seduction he cites alot of seduction from those time periods.
 

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I just watched Dangerous Liasons. Good movie to watch based on this topic although im not exactly sure what century it was based on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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