"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Love in the 18th century

diplomatic_lies

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One of my friends is those "Renaissance fair" types, and some of the stuff he says about love/relationships in the 18th or 19th century is pretty damned scary.

-You couldn't initiate conversation with a woman unless someone introduces the two of you
-Women couldn't hang out with guys unless they want to be seen as a slvt
-An unmarried man and woman in the same room was frowned upon
-If you're poor or come from a crap family, talking to a chick from an important family was a no-no
-On the bright side people were very sexually active, as long as nobody knows about it

(Of course, I think this is more a European thing. In America there wasn't as much class-based society)


Wondered how you guys would've DJed back then ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In 1873, the Comstock Law was passed. Named after Anthony Comstock, the Comstock Law made illegal the advertising of any sort of birth control, and it also allowed the postal service to confiscate condoms sold through the mail.
 

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i think some of that is BS because in the art of seduction he cites alot of seduction from those time periods.
 

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I just watched Dangerous Liasons. Good movie to watch based on this topic although im not exactly sure what century it was based on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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