"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Love. A secondhand emotion?

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I was listening to a Tina Turner song (I know what you're thinking) and the lyric "what's love but a secondhand emotion" got me thinking.

This is absolutely correct. People make such a big deal about women and love and people actually kill themselves because of breakups but really chances are you will go through life being "in love" with more than 1 person. Probably 2, 3 or 10 people. I'm 19 and i'm already on my third "proper" girlfriend. My stepdad told me about his relationship experiences before he met my Mother and how much heartbreak there was and although things often seemed bleak there were always other women in his life after.

So when you split up with your girlfriend and you're feeling all depressed stop and think. You probably felt like that about another woman before, and you sure as hell will again. And probably again after that. It takes time to find someone worthwhile and you may not until you're in your 40s or 50s. Plus, how do you know what you really want in a woman if you've only had one?

Anyone with plenty of experience will already know this and i'd love to read about your experiences. May also help young uns feeling like their world is falling apart because their first ever girlfriend dumped them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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