"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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lots of girls

gongxia649

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i asked my friend to go to the mall to chek out the girls.
so we went there today and there were several attractive girls. some of them walkin alone, some of them with walkin along with their moms, and others with her female friends. I wanted to target a hottie, but unfortunately i didnt do any move and obviously so my friend. Time ran out. we just stood there and looking at the hooties go by.
I just didnt have that spark. what do you DJ do to get that spark to trigger yourself to go have a small-talk to the hotties? should i approach to the UG first or what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bobbob

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Heya ... I know exactly how you feel.


The truth is, you're not going to have that spark (which is really confidence and enthusiasm) right away, because you're too nervous and have too much self-doubt.


You gotta build momentum by doing CAs first. After a few, you'll start feeling better about yourself, and with enough, you will get that spark.

But you have to do a lot of approaches, and its more effective if its over a short time frame. If you spread them out over too many days, it lowers its effectiveness.

good luck
 

gongxia649

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Originally posted by bobbob
Heya ... I know exactly how you feel.


The truth is, you're not going to have that spark (which is really confidence and enthusiasm) right away, because you're too nervous and have too much self-doubt.


You gotta build momentum by doing CAs first. After a few, you'll start feeling better about yourself, and with enough, you will get that spark.

But you have to do a lot of approaches, and its more effective if its over a short time frame. If you spread them out over too many days, it lowers its effectiveness.

good luck
what does CAs stand for?
 

Vibe

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Originally posted by gongxia649
what does CAs stand for?
Cold Approaches

~Vibe~
 
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