"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lots of girls

gongxia649

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i asked my friend to go to the mall to chek out the girls.
so we went there today and there were several attractive girls. some of them walkin alone, some of them with walkin along with their moms, and others with her female friends. I wanted to target a hottie, but unfortunately i didnt do any move and obviously so my friend. Time ran out. we just stood there and looking at the hooties go by.
I just didnt have that spark. what do you DJ do to get that spark to trigger yourself to go have a small-talk to the hotties? should i approach to the UG first or what?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Heya ... I know exactly how you feel.


The truth is, you're not going to have that spark (which is really confidence and enthusiasm) right away, because you're too nervous and have too much self-doubt.


You gotta build momentum by doing CAs first. After a few, you'll start feeling better about yourself, and with enough, you will get that spark.

But you have to do a lot of approaches, and its more effective if its over a short time frame. If you spread them out over too many days, it lowers its effectiveness.

good luck
 

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Originally posted by bobbob
Heya ... I know exactly how you feel.


The truth is, you're not going to have that spark (which is really confidence and enthusiasm) right away, because you're too nervous and have too much self-doubt.


You gotta build momentum by doing CAs first. After a few, you'll start feeling better about yourself, and with enough, you will get that spark.

But you have to do a lot of approaches, and its more effective if its over a short time frame. If you spread them out over too many days, it lowers its effectiveness.

good luck
what does CAs stand for?
 

Vibe

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Originally posted by gongxia649
what does CAs stand for?
Cold Approaches

~Vibe~
 
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