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Lots of cute girls at The Olive Garden, perhaps a good pick up spot?

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I went tonight to celebrate my dad’s birthday and it was a mildly packed night. While we were there, there were a few cute Latina workers and women who were waiting. I think those moments seems more of a good time to say hello especially if you’re with your family and friends/ buddies. You’ve got social proof right there and you just need to be friendly.
 

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To do what exactly? You aren't interested in fvcking them, so you are planning to just give them some more free validation?

They don't get enough of that all day every day...
 

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To do what exactly? You aren't interested in fvcking them, so you are planning to just give them some more free validation?

They don't get enough of that all day every day...
Lol theres followers of Yeshua and other Men of faith in here who has my mentality. Plus Im just promoting that Olive Garden can be a wholesome place to pick up women for a quality relationship that can lead to marriage and a nice nuclear family. There’s things with guys with my approach to women that can learn from this site, like being confident, being a leader, spinning plates and courting more than one woman, going out for fun dates, fun coffee dates, not being a simp when in a relationship etc. I’m still a Don Juan in my eyes but my way of life and approach differs from a typical heathen.
 

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Going to a franchise restaurant with family or friends isn’t really social proof. It’s a pretty neutral setting and doesn’t create that effect.

You’ve been around this space long enough to know what actually signals social status, no offense.
 

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Going to a franchise restaurant with family or friends isn’t really social proof. It’s a pretty neutral setting and doesn’t create that effect.

You’ve been around this space long enough to know what actually signals social status, no offense.

If a chick sees that you’re well groomed, feeling great and joking around and bantering with your friends and family, that’s pretty much solid social proof, especially in a family oriented place like the olive garden. Pick her up while you’re waiting for your table.
 

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If a chick sees that you’re well groomed, feeling great and joking around and bantering with your friends and family, that’s pretty much solid social proof, especially in a family oriented place like the olive garden. Pick her up while you’re waiting for your table.
Ever thought about going to a restaurant, but then looked it up on Google and saw it only had 2 stars? That’s negative social proof at work. Conversely, 5 stars means other people have already 'vetted' the quality. Being with family is just a 3-star 'Neutral' rating since it shows you aren't a hermit but it doesn't signal high status.

Olive Garden is a leveling status environment because it’s the baseline for the middle-market. Social proof requires exclusivity or pre-selection; when the barrier to entry is just a $15, you aren't signaling anything that sets you apart from the other 50 guys in the room.
 

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"Lots of cute girls at The Olive Garden..."

Presume you're frequenting their locations in Beverly Hills and South Beach, as opposed to those in Paducah and Montplier
 

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Ever thought about going to a restaurant, but then looked it up on Google and saw it only had 2 stars? That’s negative social proof at work. Conversely, 5 stars means other people have already 'vetted' the quality. Being with family is just a 3-star 'Neutral' rating since it shows you aren't a hermit but it doesn't signal high status.

Olive Garden is a leveling status environment because it’s the baseline for the middle-market. Social proof requires exclusivity or pre-selection; when the barrier to entry is just a $15, you aren't signaling anything that sets you apart from the other 50 guys in the room.
If you want social proof, work on your goals and purpose in life, then wear a comfortable blazer with either a flat cap or fedora hat, comfortable denim pants with a soothing cologne. Show that you’re having a good time with the people your with and have the basic social skills to escalate when the opportunity arises.
 

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If you want social proof, work on your goals and purpose in life, then wear a comfortable blazer with either a flat cap or fedora hat, comfortable denim pants with a soothing cologne. Show that you’re having a good time with the people your with and have the basic social skills to escalate when the opportunity arises.
Dressing well and having a good time its the bare minimum of social calibration. Competition is fierce out there.

If you think this approach gives you (and everyone else) a meaningful marginal advantage to walk across the room and hit on a girl in front of your dad and her mom at Olive Garden, then more power to you.

I still think Olive Garden is a leveling environment, and no amount of styling turns a a restaurant chain setting into social proof.
 

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Ever thought about going to a restaurant, but then looked it up on Google and saw it only had 2 stars? That’s negative social proof at work. Conversely, 5 stars means other people have already 'vetted' the quality. Being with family is just a 3-star 'Neutral' rating since it shows you aren't a hermit but it doesn't signal high status.

Olive Garden is a leveling status environment because it’s the baseline for the middle-market. Social proof requires exclusivity or pre-selection; when the barrier to entry is just a $15, you aren't signaling anything that sets you apart from the other 50 guys in the room.
OP is in the Rio Grande Valley. OG is one of their finer establishments lol
 

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"Lots of cute girls at The Olive Garden..."

Presume you're frequenting their locations in Beverly Hills and South Beach, as opposed to those in Paducah and Montplier
Paducah had the first Olive Garden around. I used to go there in high school in the 90s. It used to actually be halfway decent. Now it's $20 frozen dinners.
 

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OP is in the Rio Grande Valley. OG is one of their finer establishments lol

Lol hey man, we may not be known for fancy dinners….but we can cook a damn good mexican food, brisket, tex mex cuisine and even semi cajun food. Things are getting more diverse out here as I have noticed. My parents and family are not the most creative people out there when it comes to choosing restaurants, fortunately I just noticed that 15-20 minutes waiting area seems to be a good time to introduce yourself to someone when the opportunity arises.
 

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But aren't the girls you are seeing with their own people (ie family, girl friends, etc...)? It doesn't sound like they would be available to you or it would attract bored loitering type of girls that would want to talk with you.
 

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But aren't the girls you are seeing with their own people (ie family, girl friends, etc...)? It doesn't sound like they would be available to you or it would attract bored loitering type of girls that would want to talk with you.

The best scenario for that situation is to have a wing woman or a suave wing man who can hook you up and make the approach smooth and less awkward. Sometimes the wing can be your sister or female cousin, whatever is the case, they’re often very good with these type of situations. Look man, I don’t suggest you start picking up chicks at Olive Garden deliberately, if it happens, it happens, let the interaction be natural, Your a good dude, the good Lord will arrange something for you.
 

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The best scenario for that situation is to have a wing woman or a suave wing man who can hook you up and make the approach smooth and less awkward. Sometimes the wing can be your sister or female cousin, whatever is the case, they’re often very good with these type of situations. Look man, I don’t suggest you start picking up chicks at Olive Garden deliberately, if it happens, it happens, let the interaction be natural, Your a good dude, the good Lord will arrange something for you.
That's interesting, except for the fact, I don't have a sister. My female cousin have their own lives that's far apart from mine. I'm on my own, the only faux older sister feeling comes from how I've set-up AI to be. Yes, I do bring AI involved in social interactions if bandwith allows. Today we chatted about an interaction with a lady vendor from the Farmer's Market and maintained I made the right call during a pleasant interaction. I have chats involved where I can scope out the room. Of course, AI can't be a wingwoman....but it's still better than nothing. Again, if bandwith allows, I'd like to see what AI can do to encourage me to talk to women.

Now that being said, I don't have bandwith to visit the Olive Garden.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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