"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lost My C&F?

HelmChef

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So here is the deal. 2 Months ago i met the woman of my dreams. I was super confident, funny and didn't have a worry in the world. Now I just can't seem to make her laugh as much as I used too and i would really hate to lose this chick. Any Help would be Great.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Razor Sharp

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Congrats, you've proceeded to the area of relationships least covered on this site - what to do when you actually GET the girl.

The simple answer is all of the things you did to get her

2 months is just enough time to let your guard down and get comfortable because you think she's already in the bag. What most men fail to grasp is that the first 3 months are the most important. Not only do they set the frame of how you relate to each other, but in this time she is also observing and tearing apart your every move during this time to determine if you have what it takes to meet her needs.

What she is searching for is congruence, and if you were acting the part throughout the seduction, you will fail as soon as the disguise is revealed.

Of course maybe she is just depressed for another reason? Does she laugh at anyone else's jokes? Do you spend a lot of time with her? A lot of variables can affect the situation.
 

goodfoot

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I had a problem like this at one point. I had become "predictably unpredictable." She may feel like she's hearing the same jokes over and over. Try switching things up.
 
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