"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lost My C&F?

HelmChef

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So here is the deal. 2 Months ago i met the woman of my dreams. I was super confident, funny and didn't have a worry in the world. Now I just can't seem to make her laugh as much as I used too and i would really hate to lose this chick. Any Help would be Great.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Razor Sharp

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Congrats, you've proceeded to the area of relationships least covered on this site - what to do when you actually GET the girl.

The simple answer is all of the things you did to get her

2 months is just enough time to let your guard down and get comfortable because you think she's already in the bag. What most men fail to grasp is that the first 3 months are the most important. Not only do they set the frame of how you relate to each other, but in this time she is also observing and tearing apart your every move during this time to determine if you have what it takes to meet her needs.

What she is searching for is congruence, and if you were acting the part throughout the seduction, you will fail as soon as the disguise is revealed.

Of course maybe she is just depressed for another reason? Does she laugh at anyone else's jokes? Do you spend a lot of time with her? A lot of variables can affect the situation.
 

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I had a problem like this at one point. I had become "predictably unpredictable." She may feel like she's hearing the same jokes over and over. Try switching things up.
 
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