"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lost custody by court order

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I sympathise. I think the fundamental problem is that in most jurisdictions the courts tend to prioritise the children’s welfare over the needs and wishes (and rights, if any are recognised — none are in for example Australia) of the parents. So there are often outcomes that seem perverse where the benefit of ‘equality’ is outweighed by other consideration of the facts. It’s far from ideal in terms of the choices the courts face.
Most societies don’t have the resources to enforce or guide adequate coparenting in a high conflict separation.
In general Mother's are considered the child raisers so in regards to children, the courts usually will side with them if there are any questions.

It may not be fair, but ironically the forum cries about not having traditional roles for men and women and how it's ruined things, but then wants to not hold this in court in regards to children.

Unless there is a reason why children can't be with the mother, they are likely going to get every benefit of the doubt.

Now don't get me wrong...there are plenty of women who take advantage of this and that shouldn't be allowed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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