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Lost custody by court order

Baibars

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I lost custody of my 2 children ( 8 and 4 yo) even though I don’t do drugs/violence or anything like that.
I used the word custody because I couldn’t find a better English word for it. Here in Germany I’m still allowed to see my children every other weekend but they took all my parental rights away.
It all started 2 years ago. My ex didn’t allow me to see my kids so I went to a lawyer to set up a schedule to see my kids.
We went to court and it took a year but I finally got that schedule. I almost had no contact with my toxic ex during the whole process.
She didn’t like the fact that I stood up for my rights so she took a lawyer too.

She went to court to get my custody and made many claims about me which weren’t true and she couldn’t prove them anyway. She has a better lawyer than mine and they tried everything to defeat me in court .
The whole time I tried to be there for my children and I didn’t act stupid so they don’t have anything to use against me but somehow judge is still on my ex side.

in the court order he mentions that my ex claimed I’m violent and that custody is not only about parents but for the kids well being and that he thinks it’s better for the kid that one parent has all the decision making. He also claims that I didn’t try enough to be present in my childrens life which is also complete BS.

i will go to my lawyer and we will file for an objection but I’m really afraid and I feel like crap now. I tried my best but they still managed to defeat me.
My ex also plans to move 150 miles away to her new boyfriend now since she has all the rights to make that decision without needing to ask me.

im depressed and at this point im thinking about giving up my kids because I tried so hard for them but I still get punished all the time. I didn’t harm anyone , didn’t even talk to my ex the whole time only if necessary for the kids..
 

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My one piece of advice. Put this all down in writing, all of your thoughts and feelings, and your attempts to make things equitable and right for your children. Then give it to them on the 18th or 21st Birthday. Once they are adults, they will know that you tried your utmost best to be part of their lives.
 

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I lost custody of my 2 children ( 8 and 4 yo) even though I don’t do drugs/violence or anything like that.
I used the word custody because I couldn’t find a better English word for it. Here in Germany I’m still allowed to see my children every other weekend but they took all my parental rights away.
It all started 2 years ago. My ex didn’t allow me to see my kids so I went to a lawyer to set up a schedule to see my kids.
We went to court and it took a year but I finally got that schedule. I almost had no contact with my toxic ex during the whole process.
She didn’t like the fact that I stood up for my rights so she took a lawyer too.

She went to court to get my custody and made many claims about me which weren’t true and she couldn’t prove them anyway. She has a better lawyer than mine and they tried everything to defeat me in court .
The whole time I tried to be there for my children and I didn’t act stupid so they don’t have anything to use against me but somehow judge is still on my ex side.

in the court order he mentions that my ex claimed I’m violent and that custody is not only about parents but for the kids well being and that he thinks it’s better for the kid that one parent has all the decision making. He also claims that I didn’t try enough to be present in my childrens life which is also complete BS.

i will go to my lawyer and we will file for an objection but I’m really afraid and I feel like crap now. I tried my best but they still managed to defeat me.
My ex also plans to move 150 miles away to her new boyfriend now since she has all the rights to make that decision without needing to ask me.

im depressed and at this point im thinking about giving up my kids because I tried so hard for them but I still get punished all the time. I didn’t harm anyone , didn’t even talk to my ex the whole time only if necessary for the kids..
As stated before, unfortunately, society continues to show us that men must go above and beyond to prove they are abused or they are in the right. That is not the case for women. It has continued to be proven that a woman can simply say the words and society will be on her side. False accusations are not given the severity they deserve. Sadly, it is the way society has shaped up too.

With that said and having that present, you must continue to fight back. A man will stand his ground until death. We are problem fixers, we build with sweat, tears, and blood. This is our nature. Stand up!

However, this time be strategic about how you approach this. Obviously, the lawyer you hired was not up to the task. They are expensive, yes, but going cheap in those matters will cost you more long-term than the lawyer itself. Gather as much evidence as possible, texts, emails, videos, and recordings (as seen in the Depp vs Heard case), and invest in a high-profile family lawyer.

If what you are saying is true, with all the right tools and resources, you should win in the end. Your kids deserve a strong man who at the very least puts up a fight until the end. Innocent people spend their entire lives in prison and are still fighting. If in the end, you lose, at least your children would remember you to be a fierce fighter and advocate for the truth.

Remember, the truth always comes out so see to it until the end.


Modern Man Advice
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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I would ghost and reconnect with them later in life. Document every piece of ****ery. I am not funding her CC venture. Leave Germany. It's more cucked then the UK.
 

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OP, this is terrible situation that you're in and my heart goes out to you. She's moving away and taking the kids. God only knows if her boyfriend is a good man or someone who would abuse those poor kids.

Hearing stories like this always sends a chill down my spine.
 

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I would ghost and reconnect with them later in life. Document every piece of ****ery. I am not funding her CC venture. Leave Germany. It's more cucked then the UK.
Damn who would have thought that Germany was as gynocentric as the United States. Wow
 

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I want to have kids but then I hear stories like this and i reconsider. Btw fighting vs falling back is a tough decision. I know men who have blown their life savings trying to fight for custody for their kids. Is this a good thing to fight....its depends. Sometimes its better to take the limited custody and let them know the truth when they are 18.

I know men that took the approach of " I love you and you know where to find me, but I cant go broke trying to fight your mother". They seem to be better off.
 

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Should have got a better lawyer. If she is accusing you of things you did not do, then do the same to her.
 

Xenom0rph

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I want to have kids but then I hear stories like this and i reconsider. Btw fighting vs falling back is a tough decision. I know men who have blown their life savings trying to fight for custody for their kids. Is this a good thing to fight....its depends. Sometimes its better to take the limited custody and let them know the truth when they are 18.

I know men that took the approach of " I love you and you know where to find me, but I cant go broke trying to fight your mother". They seem to be better off.
Yes, the sad reality is that this is true. Most likely the man would lose the fight anyways, so it's best just to save that money for the kids when they come of age and need help with college tuition.

I know it sounds more honorable to say you're going to keep fighting, but the reality is that you have to pick and choose your battles even in something as painful as custody battles.

If she's moving away, demand that at least you should be allowed to see them once every few months to check on their well-being and see if the boyfriend is abusing them.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Damn who would have thought that Germany was as gynocentric as the United States. Wow
One of my mates I'd originally from there. It's cuck to the max. Young girls were getting attacked years ago and morons were covering it up.

You can do a search for the specifics. Most of the western world is cuck central.
 
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