"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Loss of interest

WhitePimp

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Lately I just havent been interested in girls at all really. Not in a gay way, just that I feel like I have absolutely no time or desire to even approach and try to get anything started. I had a good run going this summer but now I seem to be losing some of my nerve and skill when it comes to approaching. Has this happened to anyone here? I am busy with a lot of my own stuff which is probably the reason why and a good thing on top of that but I dont want to have all my nerve leaving me when I'm ready to get back into approaching. Any ideas?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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the_great_gaia

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you don't anything to worry about.

What you're doing now is basically something a "successful" DJ goes thru. Girls aren't the main priority in your life, because if they were, you'd be no DJ. The only type of people who puts girls number ONE in their life/ priorities are desperate, nice, AFCs. You going thru this right now is only showing that you are no AFC, but a DJ. And this way, girls will more than likely flock you now.

Anything will run from you if you chase it.
 

buckwheat18

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Wow, you described exactly what I have been feeling like lately. I've just been doing my own thing right now, with finding a better job. I just don't have the time of day to worry about women. I just figure when I want a female companion or whatever i'll know what to do.
 

Sirducer

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Originally posted by WhitePimp
Lately I just havent been interested in girls at all really. Not in a gay way, just that I feel like I have absolutely no time or desire to even approach and try to get anything started. I had a good run going this summer but now I seem to be losing some of my nerve and skill when it comes to approaching. Has this happened to anyone here? I am busy with a lot of my own stuff which is probably the reason why and a good thing on top of that but I dont want to have all my nerve leaving me when I'm ready to get back into approaching. Any ideas?
Stop masterbating!
The hand is banned.
 

Fox800

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I know what you feel, I'm going through the exact same thing. I thought it might be low testosterone levels, but I've been working out and my energy levels are as high as they've ever been. I'm just not as turned on by girls/porn as much...I mean I'll register "she's hot/cute/attractive" but it doesn't make me pop wood like a hot girl used to...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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