"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Loss of interest

FiNs2BeCaUgHt

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I just got a girlfriend and im already having doubts about it(2nd day)
Well I just found out that she SMOKES and im not too fond of smokers.We even wear diffrent type of clothes, of course not the same type of apparel(boy/girl) im talking brand.She wears those hottopic type clothes,I wear American Eagle,Hollister. Imight just drop this girl..Thoughts?

Thanks alot,
-Chris

P.S If there are 2 threads.. on this.. sorry.My computer was going slow and the thread didnt go through, that i know of..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bryce556

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well for me personally, "she smokes shes gone" same thing with drugs. its tells you somthing about peoples intellagence level and personality when your smoking in highschool. I just totaly forget about it and move on. plus you dont want to be around a smoker (bad for your health)
 

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For the future posters... I hope you see the irony on that reply..
Thanks though Bryce.. just needed a laugh(heh)
 

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Omg, like I know!

I dumped this girl that wore Billabong when I was SO in to Volcom!

I mean, come on, Billabong...!? LOL!

Edit: And yes, his incongruity was charming. 'I thinks my intellagence are totaly somthing awsome.'
 

Bryce556

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well intelligence is one of my standards. I hate having to solve problems and do stuff for girls who are stupid but hot, it just annoys me. on my 10 point scale I rate baised on intellagence and hotness :D I would rather be with a smart cute girl then a hot stupid girl :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zack77766

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i agree with you. i personally dont date smokers and will never. it really shows u they arent good people (my father is a smoker and hes a total ass). belive me in 10 years youll be dealing weith a overweight woman whos too lazy to walk down a flight of stairs to take a smoke
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Personal experience with father
 

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To me it's not what clothes she wears; if she drinks or smokes. To me.. that ain't a problem. It's about her personality and whether you two connect or not. Opposites attract right?

If she is someone you really like. Then, you can talk to her and say you don't like smokers. Don't be a d!ck about it. Say; "Please don't smoke around me I don't like it." Or; "You should try to quit because, it's bad for your health and I'm against it."

If she ain't some girl you really like then, do what you feel you need to do.
 

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Different personality is fine, I wear totally different clothing compared to the people I have been out with in the past.
However, smoking is a no-no for me, as I can't stand the smell let alone bare the thought of kissing somebody with smoke breath; yuck!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Plec07

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Wow... Reading some of those views on smokers was a bit weird being a smoker myself. I'd just like to say there is a lot of prejudice there about smokers that don't have a lot of evidence behind them. I'll agree it's a bad habit, and I accept people's boundaries of "I won't date a smoker". It's your choice, regardless of your reasons and I won't try and change that. But I'd just like to point out that smoking doesn't necessarily show somebody isn't intelligent. I'm a 15 y/o smoker and I'm predicted mostly A's for my GCSE's with 2 B's and 1 A* which I'm currently achieving.

Smoking also has nothing to do with how lazy somebody is, and how fat they're gonna get when they're older. My mates dad is in his late 40s, been smoking since he was 16. He's leaner than almost any other guy I've seen around his age, muscular and does karate on a regular basis.

I'll admit drugs can mess up somebody's mind mentally and I don't agree with regular users who have become dependant on it. However from my experience I've never met a smoker who's got mental/personality issues that relate to the fact they smoke.

Like I said I'm not trying to convince you to date smokers or change your opinions on them. Cos there are a lot of bad points about them and I'll accept that. I just hope now some people won't be saying they don't like smokers for reasons that are not necessarily true.

And to the OP. Just do what you think you need to do. If you've lost interest and don't think your relationship will hold then I say end it. In my opinion the reasons don't matter, the only thing that matters is if your interested or not.
 
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