Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Loss of interest

FiNs2BeCaUgHt

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I just got a girlfriend and im already having doubts about it(2nd day)
Well I just found out that she SMOKES and im not too fond of smokers.We even wear diffrent type of clothes, of course not the same type of apparel(boy/girl) im talking brand.She wears those hottopic type clothes,I wear American Eagle,Hollister. Imight just drop this girl..Thoughts?

Thanks alot,
-Chris

P.S If there are 2 threads.. on this.. sorry.My computer was going slow and the thread didnt go through, that i know of..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bryce556

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well for me personally, "she smokes shes gone" same thing with drugs. its tells you somthing about peoples intellagence level and personality when your smoking in highschool. I just totaly forget about it and move on. plus you dont want to be around a smoker (bad for your health)
 

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For the future posters... I hope you see the irony on that reply..
Thanks though Bryce.. just needed a laugh(heh)
 

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Omg, like I know!

I dumped this girl that wore Billabong when I was SO in to Volcom!

I mean, come on, Billabong...!? LOL!

Edit: And yes, his incongruity was charming. 'I thinks my intellagence are totaly somthing awsome.'
 

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well intelligence is one of my standards. I hate having to solve problems and do stuff for girls who are stupid but hot, it just annoys me. on my 10 point scale I rate baised on intellagence and hotness :D I would rather be with a smart cute girl then a hot stupid girl :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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zack77766

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i agree with you. i personally dont date smokers and will never. it really shows u they arent good people (my father is a smoker and hes a total ass). belive me in 10 years youll be dealing weith a overweight woman whos too lazy to walk down a flight of stairs to take a smoke
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Personal experience with father
 

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To me it's not what clothes she wears; if she drinks or smokes. To me.. that ain't a problem. It's about her personality and whether you two connect or not. Opposites attract right?

If she is someone you really like. Then, you can talk to her and say you don't like smokers. Don't be a d!ck about it. Say; "Please don't smoke around me I don't like it." Or; "You should try to quit because, it's bad for your health and I'm against it."

If she ain't some girl you really like then, do what you feel you need to do.
 

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Different personality is fine, I wear totally different clothing compared to the people I have been out with in the past.
However, smoking is a no-no for me, as I can't stand the smell let alone bare the thought of kissing somebody with smoke breath; yuck!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Plec07

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Wow... Reading some of those views on smokers was a bit weird being a smoker myself. I'd just like to say there is a lot of prejudice there about smokers that don't have a lot of evidence behind them. I'll agree it's a bad habit, and I accept people's boundaries of "I won't date a smoker". It's your choice, regardless of your reasons and I won't try and change that. But I'd just like to point out that smoking doesn't necessarily show somebody isn't intelligent. I'm a 15 y/o smoker and I'm predicted mostly A's for my GCSE's with 2 B's and 1 A* which I'm currently achieving.

Smoking also has nothing to do with how lazy somebody is, and how fat they're gonna get when they're older. My mates dad is in his late 40s, been smoking since he was 16. He's leaner than almost any other guy I've seen around his age, muscular and does karate on a regular basis.

I'll admit drugs can mess up somebody's mind mentally and I don't agree with regular users who have become dependant on it. However from my experience I've never met a smoker who's got mental/personality issues that relate to the fact they smoke.

Like I said I'm not trying to convince you to date smokers or change your opinions on them. Cos there are a lot of bad points about them and I'll accept that. I just hope now some people won't be saying they don't like smokers for reasons that are not necessarily true.

And to the OP. Just do what you think you need to do. If you've lost interest and don't think your relationship will hold then I say end it. In my opinion the reasons don't matter, the only thing that matters is if your interested or not.
 
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