"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Loss of interest

FiNs2BeCaUgHt

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I just got a girlfriend and im already having doubts about it(2nd day)
Well I just found out that she SMOKES and im not too fond of smokers.We even wear diffrent type of clothes, of course not the same type of apparel(boy/girl) im talking brand.She wears those hottopic type clothes,I wear American Eagle,Hollister. Imight just drop this girl..Thoughts?

Thanks alot,
-Chris

P.S If there are 2 threads.. on this.. sorry.My computer was going slow and the thread didnt go through, that i know of..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bryce556

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well for me personally, "she smokes shes gone" same thing with drugs. its tells you somthing about peoples intellagence level and personality when your smoking in highschool. I just totaly forget about it and move on. plus you dont want to be around a smoker (bad for your health)
 

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For the future posters... I hope you see the irony on that reply..
Thanks though Bryce.. just needed a laugh(heh)
 

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Omg, like I know!

I dumped this girl that wore Billabong when I was SO in to Volcom!

I mean, come on, Billabong...!? LOL!

Edit: And yes, his incongruity was charming. 'I thinks my intellagence are totaly somthing awsome.'
 

Bryce556

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well intelligence is one of my standards. I hate having to solve problems and do stuff for girls who are stupid but hot, it just annoys me. on my 10 point scale I rate baised on intellagence and hotness :D I would rather be with a smart cute girl then a hot stupid girl :p
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zack77766

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i agree with you. i personally dont date smokers and will never. it really shows u they arent good people (my father is a smoker and hes a total ass). belive me in 10 years youll be dealing weith a overweight woman whos too lazy to walk down a flight of stairs to take a smoke
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Personal experience with father
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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To me it's not what clothes she wears; if she drinks or smokes. To me.. that ain't a problem. It's about her personality and whether you two connect or not. Opposites attract right?

If she is someone you really like. Then, you can talk to her and say you don't like smokers. Don't be a d!ck about it. Say; "Please don't smoke around me I don't like it." Or; "You should try to quit because, it's bad for your health and I'm against it."

If she ain't some girl you really like then, do what you feel you need to do.
 

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Different personality is fine, I wear totally different clothing compared to the people I have been out with in the past.
However, smoking is a no-no for me, as I can't stand the smell let alone bare the thought of kissing somebody with smoke breath; yuck!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wow... Reading some of those views on smokers was a bit weird being a smoker myself. I'd just like to say there is a lot of prejudice there about smokers that don't have a lot of evidence behind them. I'll agree it's a bad habit, and I accept people's boundaries of "I won't date a smoker". It's your choice, regardless of your reasons and I won't try and change that. But I'd just like to point out that smoking doesn't necessarily show somebody isn't intelligent. I'm a 15 y/o smoker and I'm predicted mostly A's for my GCSE's with 2 B's and 1 A* which I'm currently achieving.

Smoking also has nothing to do with how lazy somebody is, and how fat they're gonna get when they're older. My mates dad is in his late 40s, been smoking since he was 16. He's leaner than almost any other guy I've seen around his age, muscular and does karate on a regular basis.

I'll admit drugs can mess up somebody's mind mentally and I don't agree with regular users who have become dependant on it. However from my experience I've never met a smoker who's got mental/personality issues that relate to the fact they smoke.

Like I said I'm not trying to convince you to date smokers or change your opinions on them. Cos there are a lot of bad points about them and I'll accept that. I just hope now some people won't be saying they don't like smokers for reasons that are not necessarily true.

And to the OP. Just do what you think you need to do. If you've lost interest and don't think your relationship will hold then I say end it. In my opinion the reasons don't matter, the only thing that matters is if your interested or not.
 
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