"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Losing my frame...

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After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This just happened to me and I lost the girl after about a month. Be very mindful of your emotions and keep your distance.
 
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hey man, you are recognizing whats happening and so you can at least try to right your path. Last time that happened to me i did not even know what was going on, i just let my mind sink to afc depths of hell. haha. and then it was far too late.
 
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all it is is you building the woman up in your mind to be more than she is...which is just a another human that goes to the toilet like the rest of us.
 
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Htienvu said:
After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
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ive been through this.
you gotta constantly remind yourself how she was attracted to you in the first place. it wasn't because of analysis, putting her on pedestal or making her the prize.
you attracted her because you were laid back. that's the person she was attracted to. even if you're infatuated keep it in check. doesn't mean you dont express your feelings but don't verbalize them or smother her with attention. all the best
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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