"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Losing my frame...

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Htienvu

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After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This just happened to me and I lost the girl after about a month. Be very mindful of your emotions and keep your distance.
 
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hey man, you are recognizing whats happening and so you can at least try to right your path. Last time that happened to me i did not even know what was going on, i just let my mind sink to afc depths of hell. haha. and then it was far too late.
 
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all it is is you building the woman up in your mind to be more than she is...which is just a another human that goes to the toilet like the rest of us.
 
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Htienvu said:
After seeing this girl for about a month, playing it cool, keeping my frame I can see that I am starting to lose it. The infatuation feeling that I kept so in checked is starting to creep into me. I am thinking about her more, analyzing our interactions more and starting to fantasies about the future more. All this makes me want to put her on the pedestal and treat her like the prize. What I should do is relax and enjoy the ride.

I guess this is the period where a lot of guys fall into the trap and lose their frame, in turn messes up the "relationship" then wondering why they're dumped.

I am glad this site is here, thr materials are here, you guys are here to put me straight when I am slipping.

Cheers SS and everyone.
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ive been through this.
you gotta constantly remind yourself how she was attracted to you in the first place. it wasn't because of analysis, putting her on pedestal or making her the prize.
you attracted her because you were laid back. that's the person she was attracted to. even if you're infatuated keep it in check. doesn't mean you dont express your feelings but don't verbalize them or smother her with attention. all the best
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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